Taboo Files

      I'm an LDS girl (not always the best one, but I still am). In my religion sex and sexuality are pretty taboo subjects. In our religion you aren't supposed to have premarital sex; and so because of that sex kind of gets this bad rap. You aren't supposed to be sexually involved with anyone, or watch porn or any of that- and a lot of parents won't talk to their daughters (or sons) about sex.
          Well, the problem with that, is that at some point those children become adults who get married. For me, when  got married- having sex with my husband felt so wrong because for years I'd had it drilled into my head that I wasn't supposed to do this. It was really hard to wrap my head around the fact that I was married now, and having sex wasn't a sin.
         Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with waiting until marriage to be intimate- but I don't like the way the subject is treated. I understand that it's a difficult subject to talk about and it's a delicate position for sure- but I think there needs to be a greater focus on why yous should wait until marriage and how wonderful it is when shared with your spouse.

      The other problem I've faced is that I'm clueless. I have so many questions and things no one prepared me for. I've spent time reading blogs, watching youtube videos and talking to my friends- but that is seriously a lot of work. I've decided to create "The Taboo Files" to talk about and discuss some of those issues that no one else really seems to want to discuss. If you are easily offended- go ahead and skip this. Any rude, degrading, offensive, judgmental or in otherwise disrespectful comments will not be approved: so please don't bother leaving them.