tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-73663661653001933702024-02-19T01:16:58.397-08:00InkSpillTheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.comBlogger147125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-24468807287322010122015-08-16T17:36:00.003-07:002015-08-16T17:36:51.581-07:00LubeAs Always with the Taboo Files, the contents of this post are meant for adults and are of a sensitive nature. They are meant for educational purposes, for those who could use some guidance. If you are easily offended or embarrassed, please check out another post. Rude, hurtful, or degrading comments will not be approved, so please don't bother to leave them.<br />
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When I got married I didn't really know anything about sex- so my wedding night didn't exactly go as planned. Instead, I ended up curled in a ball, sobbing in pain and disappointment because 13 year olds could do something I couldn't. This probably actually did some long lasting damage to our sex life. What I wish I had known is what lube is, what it's for and what kinds you really want to use for stuff. I was at a bachelorette party several months later and this really conservative girl from a strict religious background. She said that her and her husband didn't have much sex because it wasn't enjoyable. Later she mentioned that they didn't use lube. When asked why, she said that they had used it the first couple of times they had had sex- and she had gotten a UTI from it.<br />
Oh hunny. *Sigh* I really wish that girls like this had someone to talk to. In reality, her UTI was probably caused by the fact that she had been having sex (which can introduce bacteria into the vaginal tract) , had been taking baths, swimming or hot tubbing, and was not properly cleansing herself. Hardly any girls are taught the importance of feminine cleansers.<br />
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Lube is designed to make sex better. And there are thousands of different brands and types and styles out there. NOT all of them will work for you, NOT all of them will work for everyone the same way, and NOT all of them are useful for everything.<br />
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Water based: This is usually what you want, and it comes in lots of styles (cream, gel, warming, jelly, etc). Basically a water based lube is going to be made mostly with water, wash off easier, and be less sticky. Cons: Not meant for toys, This will wear off faster than a silicone based lubricant, You can't use this in the shower or tub.<br />
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silicone based: These will be a little heavier, they will last longer and are meant for water play (showers, tubs, etc) Cons: Do NOT use with toys, will also tend to be stickier and will not wash away as easily.<br />
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Toy: This is also a thicker lubricant, but it is specifically designed for use with toys. If you want to use sex toys, be sure that the lube you are using won't damage them (They are expensive!)<br />
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Jelly: like the name suggests, this is a thick, jelly-like substance. Because of it's make-up it is not particularly long lasting, nor does it mimic your body's natural fluid. If you want to use a water based lube for toys, use a jelly. Also, Jelly is ideal for anal penetration.<br />
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Liquid: This is my personal favorite. It is thin; a lot like water and is very close to your body's natural fluid. It will last longer then a jelly and be more comfortable. Be careful though, it is very runny and will easily get EVERYWHERE. it's also easy to get too much.<br />
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Gel: This is in-between a Jelly and a Liquid. This is more meant for women then men. It will be thicker, and last a bit longer. some may not feel as natural as others, and many will be silicone based.<br />
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Cream: This is usually meant more for males than women, and will provide them with more pleasure during penetration. Different lubes for men and women can be a good idea in order to provide a more pleasurable experience for both.<br />
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Warming: This will have a tingling feeling that makes your parts feel warmer. Generally, this will heighten pleasure and make sex feel better. Some warming lubes may be too intense for you though, so try them out on your inner thigh or something before applying to your sensitive areas. (Personally, Equate's Warming Personal Liquid Lubricant has been our favorite, though their regular one is fine too)<br />
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Edible: This means that the lube is safe to ingest. These lubes are great for things like oral sex because they can mask unpleasant flavors and some can help numb your throat. These will be a bit of a waste if you have no intention of going down on your partner.<br />
<br />TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-89536234328616941002015-08-16T17:36:00.002-07:002015-08-16T17:36:21.469-07:00Gynecologist As Always with the Taboo Files, the contents of this post are meant for adults and are of a sensitive nature. They are meant for educational purposes, for those who could use some guidance. If you are easily offended or embarrassed, please check out another post. Rude, hurtful, or degrading comments will not be approved, so please don't bother to leave them.<br />
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LONG before you get pregnant, you should have a gynecologist. A lot of strict religious families don't encourage women's health, because why would their daughter need to have her vagina looked at it? She isn't having sex, she isn't having a baby, she doesn't need birth control. The End. I grew up with a vaginal disease and I never even knew it.<br />
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Because I was going to be getting married, I decided to find a gynecologist so I could get a check up and get some birth control. When I went in, she told me that I had a tilted uterus, that I actually had a tail (my tail bone extended down to far and would break upon child birth), that I had a disease where my vagina did not create enough moisture to keep it healthy- which is why I struggle with it burning and itching so much, and that I had scoliosis. Yes, I have been to dozens of doctors for all sorts of problems and my gynecologist managed to catch two big problems that aren't even related to my vagina. Having a feminine health care specialistyou trust and like is really important because there are a lot of things that can go wrong. You can get UTI's, Yeast Infections, cancers, STD, HIV, and of course- when you get pregnant, it's nice to already have someone in your corner.<br />
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Shortly after getting married, I started having a lot of pain when urinating, my urine changed colors, and it smelled different- like food. I've never been a fan of web diagnosing, I wasn't pregnant, and I wasn't really comfortable calling my mom or my friends- so I went to my gynecologist. Her first questions were: "Have you had an increase in: Sexual Activity, Swimming, Hot Tubbing or taking baths?" my response was "Well, I just got off my honeymoon- so yes to all." turns out that all of those activities can lead to UTITheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-73102609949538334202015-07-28T18:27:00.001-07:002015-08-15T19:55:23.057-07:00How To Build A New Look<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;">
<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I’m the type of person that gets
bored really easy; which has led me to being really fluid. Every now and then,
my boredom leads me to an overhall. No matter how much I love my clothes,
jewelry, makeup, hair- I need a new look. I spent four years in fashion school,
I know how to buy clothes I like- But when it comes to getting a new wardrobe- things can get daunting. For
me, when I’m buying a new wardrobe- I’m actually <b>changing </b>my style. I like
the *shock* factor (people looking at me and going “Woah! You look so
different!”) so I never do anything slowly.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">So, I decided to look around the internet
to find some help on changing your style/look. I was very disappointed in what
I found. All anyone tells you is<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">*Sigh* I’m getting really sick of “ How-to’s” that
are zero help- So I decided to go through and make my own guide from a fashion
trained girl who likes to change who she is<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When I was 13-15 I was big into
vintage inspired eclectic clothes (long, drapey sleeves, deep necklines and
uneven hems)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When I was about 16, I went through a overhall. Skulls, ties, bows, pink and black, ripped up clothes,
safety pins, mesh, sharpie/paint splatter<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Then at 18, I had a horrible breakup,
and my style changed again. This time I was more into party girl styles- sequins, dark/edgy lace,
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Recently, I went shopping. I had
found pictures on pinterest that I liked- and I went in search of clothes like
that. The result was a sophisticated, feminine and adult style. I remember
looking in the mirror on the way to work and saying to myself “Wow, who is
that?” That’s how I want my clothes to make me feel.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 10.0pt; line-height: 115%;"><b>Step One: Identify What You Want to Become</b></span></div>
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<li><span style="font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%;">Who is it you want to be? What is the new style you are after? </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%;">Create a style board of looks you like on Pinterest. Don't worry about any "rules" yet. If you like it, pin it</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 115%;">Scroll through your board. What do you see? Don't look at individual outfits just yet. If these clothes belonged to one person- what would you define their style as? Vintage, goth, retro, trendy, </span><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">feminine</span><span style="line-height: 115%;">, athletic ?</span></span></li>
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<li>Look up your favorite celebrity What clothes do they wear that you love? Are there items you wish you had/could pull off? give em a try (at least try them on at the store. If they look bad- don't buy them and no one ever has to know. If they look awesome....well, everyone will be jealous and think you're ballsy</li>
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<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">open your closet. What do you see? How would describe the style of the owner of those clothes? What it the style of that person?</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">make a positive or negative list of the styles</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Take everything out of your closet. Separate it into three pile</span><b style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"> love,</b><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"> </span><b style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"> meh, nuetral</b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Put together your favorite outfits. Now identify WHY it's your favorite. Do you like the way it looks, the color, the fit, the style? </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">What item makes it your favorite? The shoes, top, bottoms, etc</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Put together your favorite outfits- now change one thing. Change the shoes, jewelry</span><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"> or the bottoms.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Make a pile of things you don't like or that don't fit</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Before getting rid of them- analyze what you don't like. Try to belt it, tie it, tuck it, wear it with something new, add a cardigan or different accessories, maybe you just need something that goes with it. Sometimes we are simply bored with a piece</span><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">- and certain issues (like fit) can be fixed easily.If you still don't like it, get rid of it.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Take pieces you have never worn together and mix and match</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">make an inspiration board by taking pictures of yourself in a variety of different outfits and looks. Dress up and down different looks- and then hang the pictures in your closet. When you are in a hurry- it's really nice to have a reference</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Have a friend come over and act as a personal stylist. Let them dress you. They may come up with combos you never thought of</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Get rid of your old comfortable _____. You are more likely to default to your worn out comfy tee, then put on something glamorous. I have an areopostal shirt I got when i was 12 as a Christmas present. It was edgy and comfy- and I kept it till I was 22, and it was holey (in bad places) . Get rid of it- this will force you to wear other things</span></span></li>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><br /><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"><b>Step Three: Get To Know Yourself</b></span></span><span style="font-size: x-small; line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">To avoid major fashion mistakes, or purchases you regret- you need to have a solid grasp of yourself and what you are looking for. Maybe you want vintage items, trendy items, girly items, goth items. DO NOT run out and buy a bunch of those items. This part will require Shopping ....*erhm*..I mean..."Research"</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Look at yourself in a mirror- and try to identify what your body type is. Grab a measuring tape if you need to.</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Before shopping, do your hair and makeup in your favorite way, put on your favorite outfit and shoes. This will make you feel better about yourself. Also, if an item doesn't look great while you're at your BEST- it's not going to look good when you're in hurry to get out the door, your hair is wet, and makeup just isn't happening.</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"> Get a bunch of camisoles or under shirts in every color under the sun and try them on (no need to buy them). Take notes on how each color looks on you and how it changes you appearance (For example: I can't wear hot pink, bright or sky blues, yellows,oranges, or neons. All of these make my skin look off. I also can't wear colors that are similar to my hair color. I DO look good in mint, coral, soft pinks, navy, cream, white, olive,black and burgundy) This will help you identify your personal colors, and keep you from making expensive mistakes on clothes you will never wear.</span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;">Try something that scares you. For me, it was candy colored jeans. Now, I wear them with everything. Maybe it's a glittery jacket, skirts, a new color, scarves, or a new shoe style. Try these things while you are shopping- and wear them with a variety of things (If you want candy colored jeans, try on some pairs with a variety of tops that you like.), this will help you be sure that you can actually WEAR them; and that they will interrogate into your wardrobe well</span></span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 15.333332061767578px;"><span style="font-size: small; line-height: normal;">Go through your pinterest board identify items and colors that crop up a lot- and go try them on. </span></span></span>How do they fit? do they look good on your body? If not, skip them. No matter how trendy/iconic/cute they are, if it doesn't look great on you- you won't wear it. (For example, peplums, batwings, and bubble skirts are all no-nos for me) Knowing what does and doesn't work for your body will not only keep you from making costly mistakes- but will also save you time next time you need to shop. </li>
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Make Your New Look</div>
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<li>Now that you know what looks good on you, re-evaluate your pinterest board. Find two-four outfits you really love. Can you create them from things you already have? What pieces do you need to make that look? Are those pieces re-mixable (can you wear them with lots of different tops/bottoms, can you belt/tie/tuck it, can you pair it with several different styles/colors of shoes, can you mix it with a blazer/caridagan/moto jacket)</li>
<li>Make it yours. I like being unique and wearing things other people don't. Try taking thing you love from other generes (like how I was edgy with hippie braids and jewelry, feminine nails, goth spikes, etc) or take items from other decades (leg warmers from the 80s, hair from the 50's, sunglasses from the 60's etc)</li>
<li>Get bold accessories that AREN'T shoes or a bag</li>
<li>Buy a bold, unique bag</li>
<li>mix up your shoe style. Buy some attention grabbing shoes that go with most of your wardrobe</li>
<li>Dye your hair (remember- bold colors mean that you need to look pulled together ALL THE TIME in order to pull it off. Messy brown hair with no make up, sweats, a frumpy tee and sneakers is one thing; but change that to hot pink hair; and now you look unkempt and gross. Having a bold hair color will make you look worse- so you need to be polished if you want to pull it off. Also research how much upkeep the color will need...Oh, and keep in mind your clothing colors (If all your clothes are neon pink, don't dye your hair all pink, etc))</li>
<li>Get a haircut. This is always an awesome idea. You can also do this instead of a dye, if you want a more subtle look</li>
<li>If you aren't sure what to do with your hair- ask around and find a great stylist. Dress up in an outfit that optimizes the look you are going for. Go to the stylist and tell them you want something (feminine, goth, athletic, etc) They can probably help you. Just be SURE you are all on the same page before ANYTHING happens!</li>
<li>Try a new nail color/style</li>
<li>have your make up done professionally</li>
<li>For me, I commit fully to my new look. Anything that I can't wear with my new style, or that doesn't fit what I'm trying to achieve- I get rid of. This gives me the "Whole new person" feel</li>
<li>Before you take off ANY price tags from new items- put on you favorite skirt/jeans and shoes and try it out with the new tops. If it doesn't rock your world while you're in your favorite clothes; you won't like it with flats and boyfriend jeans. Do the same with pants/ skirts and any accessories. Make a pile of stuff to take back (if necessary) </li>
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TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-88973814967760852012015-03-12T19:13:00.001-07:002015-03-12T19:18:31.999-07:00What I Use To Get Clear Skin In Less Than A Week<br />
I have been struggiling for awhile with both acne and scarring. Try as I might- NOTHING was helping. I've tried using different types of acne washes, my cocoa butter soap, aloe vera, Tea tree oil, scar gel, zapzyt, new make up- all my normal things, and they weren't working. So I switched to all natural products from the company I work for. I now work for a handmade, all natural, bath and body company called Cosset Bath and Body. I currently use clean sweep, Sweet Face, Face Envy, and Midnight Magic.<br />
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Clean sweep: Clean sweep is facial cleanser that is made without sulfates, parabans, harsh chemicals, or artificial gunk. The activated charcoal in the soap pull out impurities, dirt, and excess oils from your skin. One side is rough from the charcoal, and the other is smooth. This allows you to choose either a traditional smooth wash, or mild exfoliation. The star Anise in the soap is a natural anti-bacterial, which cleanses and detoxifies the skin, it also lends the soap the smell of licorice. Ylang Ylang oil balances out sebum production, and will regulate natural oil production. Hemp seed oil will moisturize and nourish the skin.<br />
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Sweet Face: This is a gentle exfoliant made with a micro sugar that will never tear, damage or cut the skin. It is safe to use daily and is loaded with amazing oils to nourish and heal the skin. These include: Hemp oil- which is a deep penetrating oil that helps to close pores and make them apppear smaller. It also fights free radicals, and helped your skin maintain elasticity; Moroccon Argan oil and squalane- these provide nutrients to your skin, fight the effects of aging and are also acne solutions; Caffeine- this awakes your skin, brightens, reduces scarring, reduces wrinkles and helps repair cells to maintain and restore youthful glow.<br />
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Face Envy: This is our variation on a facial moisturizer. I say "version" because it is not a lotion. Instead- Face Envy is a deep penetrating, dry oil that is comogenic (it won't clog your pores). It is made with the same blend of oils as sweet face- and includes shea oil (to moisturize and protect), Lavender, and Ylang Ylang essential oils to maintain a healthy balance of oil in your face, which will produce a youthful face.<br />
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Midnight Magic : This is our newest product. It is designed as a night cream for wrinkles, discoloration and other skin problems.It is packed with age defying ingredients such as Vitamins A, C, and E, as well as caffeine. <br />
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<span style="text-align: center;">I recently added the new Midnight magic to my routine- and this is the result. I was pretty impressed. </span><br />
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My nightly routine is to wash my face with clean sweep. I allow to let it to sit for a few moments to let it draw out the impurities in my skin. After rinsing it off, I exfoliate with Sweet Face for three minutes. When I'm done, I rinse my face again and dry it. I then use rose water as a toner. I then smooth on a thick layer of midnight magic.<br />
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In the morning I wash my face with the clean sweep, use the rose water toner, and then top it off with face envy<br />
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To buy these products- go to cossetbathandbody.comTheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-22014354338882727452015-03-12T17:40:00.001-07:002015-03-12T17:40:42.223-07:00Hair UpdateSo last year, I had struggles with my hair and was worrying about it growing and trying to encourage it to do so faster. I just wanted to post a quick update.<br />
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The picture on the left is day one of my hair journey- the day after my "Big Chop." The one on the right is a month later.<br />
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TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-42920183027845596292014-11-17T11:24:00.000-08:002015-08-16T20:41:02.888-07:00Places To ACTUALLY Get Inexpensive Clothes OnlineSo, I'm not actually a huge fan of online shopping as a general rule- but recently I've stumbled across a few internet stores where you can buy brand new clothes, shoes, coats, and jewelry for thrift store prices. The problem is I can never remember where I just was- and if you search "buy cheap/inexpensive clothes online" You find a bunch of shops that think $30 for a sweater is cheap. It's not.<br />
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<li>599Fashion- Everything here is $5.99 or less- even shoes! I ordered some jewelry from here. Some of it was great, some was really not. It came quickly though, with no problems.</li>
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<li>10DollarMall- Everything here is $10 or less. I have ordered from them, and had no issues with quality.</li>
<li>Aliexpress</li>
<li>Alwaysunderpay- this site is for babies/ toddlers/ little kids- or costumes (boas, wings, etc)</li>
<li>ClothesCheap</li>
<li>DressLink</li>
<li>freerunsday- these are discounted running/athletic shoes</li>
<li>Iwantlingerie Awesome place for inexpensive costumes, corsets, tights, and of course, lingerie</li>
<li>ModDeals- Not everything here is inexpensive- but...some things are really well priced</li>
<li>RoseGal</li>
<li>RoseWholesale</li>
<li>SammyDress- inexpensive place to buy everything from dresses to shoes.</li>
<li>TBDress.com</li>
<li>TrendsGal.com</li>
<li>http://www.cichic.com</li>
<li>http://www.rhinestonejewelry.net- Tiaras and jewlery</li>
<li>http://www.hairextensionsale.com- hair extensions and wigs</li>
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<br />TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-39595927925791300752014-07-13T18:08:00.002-07:002014-07-13T18:08:53.067-07:00Taboo Files I'm an LDS girl (not always the best one, but I still am). In my religion sex and sexuality are pretty taboo subjects. In our religion you aren't supposed to have premarital sex; and so because of that sex kind of gets this bad rap. You aren't supposed to be sexually involved with anyone, or watch porn or any of that- and a lot of parents won't talk to their daughters (or sons) about sex.<br />
Well, the problem with that, is that at some point those children become adults who get married. For me, when got married- having sex with my husband felt so wrong because for years I'd had it drilled into my head that I wasn't supposed to do this. It was really hard to wrap my head around the fact that I was married now, and having sex wasn't a sin.<br />
Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with waiting until marriage to be intimate- but I don't like the way the subject is treated. I understand that it's a difficult subject to talk about and it's a delicate position for sure- but I think there needs to be a greater focus on why yous should wait until marriage and how wonderful it is when shared with your spouse.<br />
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The other problem I've faced is that I'm clueless. I have so many questions and things no one prepared me for. I've spent time reading blogs, watching youtube videos and talking to my friends- but that is seriously a lot of work. I've decided to create "The Taboo Files" to talk about and discuss some of those issues that no one else really seems to want to discuss. If you are easily offended- go ahead and skip this. Any rude, degrading, offensive, judgmental or in otherwise disrespectful comments will not be approved: so please don't bother leaving them.TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-8941329133647305622014-07-13T12:24:00.004-07:002015-08-16T17:37:15.603-07:00Wedding OverviewWell, it's finally over! I'm officially a married woman! And I have to say- it went really well. The reception was absolutely stunning, the food was delicious, and everyone commented on how beautiful and relaxed it was. We had no agenda, everyone was able to sit wherever they wanted, talk to whoever they wanted, and leave when they were ready. First off, here is a list of things I'm glad we did.<br />
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<li><b>My husband and I were the first ones there.</b> Technically since it's your party, you can kind of arrive whenever. Many brides and grooms come in late. I liked getting there first, because I was the first one to see the reception set up (which was very calming since so many things had gone wrong), I was able to go over some details and answer questions, I had time to change into my dress and touch up my make up, and we were able to eat some food before guests began to arrive.</li>
<li><b>We kept the line short and sweet. </b>First- I hate the reception lines that go on forever. I'm there to see the bride and groom. I don't know their mom, dad, brothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, grandparents, etc. And, that causes a problem for those who DO want to talk to those people, because trying will hold up the line. Our line was me and my husband. That way everyone could talk to the people they knew and and wanted to talk to. Second- I had no interest in standing in one spot for three hours. It's a party! There's friends and family and food- I wasn't about to miss it for "tradition". We stood in line for probably twenty-thirty minutes, and then the flow of people coming in kind of stopped and we left our arch. We mingled with our friends and family- both together and separately- and ate some of the delicious food. As new people entered, I made a point to go over and say hello. It made everything feel so much warmer and more intimate, and I didn't feel so constricted. With all the weddings I've been to, I always feel kind of neglected by the bride and groom- So I'm glad I was able to act like a hostess and mingle. </li>
<li><b>We had no program or agenda. </b>I was at a wedding just last night where everyone was freaking out about being on schedule, and how so many things needed to get done. We didn't do any of that; and it made for a much better atmosphere. We didn't cut the cake, or dance, or do bouquet/garter tosses, or have speeches, or do a big send off. We just let people visit and enjoy each other.</li>
<li><b>We were the last people to leave</b>. This one is definitely NOT normal, but I was glad. We weren't working or packing or anything awful- we were enjoying our friends. We sat and talked to people and ate food and didn't worry about anything else</li>
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Not everything went perfect though, and In retrospect, here is some advice I have to make the process go easier.</div>
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1.Lay out everything you will need to take with you. For me, there was a lot. I had my wedding dress, my temple bag/clothes, my luncheon dress, my makeup bag, my emergency kit, and my suitcase because we were leaving for the honeymoon directly after the reception. I thought I knew where everything was- but I didn't lay it out. So, the morning of, ten minutes before we are supposed to leave, I was outside in the moving van digging around for my bouquet and dress bag because my dad had packed everything without asking me (and called it "cleaning"). Also because of this, I forgot my garter, which I had custom made.<br />
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2. Go to bed early or don't go to bed. I went to bed around 12am, I had to be up at 2:50am. I pretty much wish I had just stayed awake. Sleeping in short bursts like that makes me grouchy- so I woke up feeling ill and cranky. Staying up would have left me in a better mood.<br />
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3. Make sure that you coordinate with your photographer on where you will meet. For about a month before the wedding, I kept trying to get a hold of my photographer and couldn't. On the night before my wedding she texted to confirm what time to be there. When my husband and I walked out of the temple, there was no photographer in sight. I called her, I texted her, I left voicemails...no answer.So I told my sister in law to take over. about an hour later, I tried calling again and she finally answered and was RUDE TO ME about how long she had been waiting; at which point I explained that we had been looking for/trying to contact her for almost an hour and someone else had had to take over. To me, as a photographer, you should arrive early- maybe even before the bride, you should ask around to find the right party, and you should NOT go into the waiting room where no one can see you (unless you've already found your group)<br />
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4. Make 110% sure you have everything you need. After family pictures, everyone went home. My husband and I and my sister in law stayed to do pictures of me and him. After pictures were done, we went on our horse drawn carriage ride, and then suddenly my sister in law realized that she had put my husband's car keys into her father's pocket (without him knowing). We were stranded. We were two hours away from Orem (which is where we needed to go,) and the keys had already gotten all the way there. We ended up barely making it to the family lunch as it was time to clean up and go to the reception.<br />
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5.When things go wrong (and they will) don't freak out. I easily could have freaked about the photographer or the keys- but that would have just made me grumpy and ruined my day and no one would have been happy or able to enjoy themselves. Plus, those responsible already feel bad. Freaking out will damage relationships, handling the stress with grace will make them admire you.<br />
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6.Nothing will look the way you want it to. My hair was completely wrong, my makeup was wrong, the reception wasn't how I'd asked- but it was ok. It was all beautiful (except my makeup. my skin was having a huge tantrum that day) and I didn't need the extra stress of worrying about those kind of details<br />
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7. I bought way too much food. Which I should have seen coming, because I always do that...But I sent food home with my family, friends, and everyone who helped out and it was fine.<br />
<br />TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-87078659692644560422014-06-28T22:12:00.000-07:002014-11-08T15:04:26.101-08:00Weddings on the cheap: Average cost vs. the thrifty bride.<div style="text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Where I live, the average wedding costs happy couple and/or parents $28,671.00!<span style="line-height: 1.5em;"> Which, first of all, is insanity- and second- doesn't even include the honeymoon or rings! Yikes. Tack on those costs, and you have an average of </span><span style="line-height: 1.5em;">$37,698.00. <span style="line-height: 1.5em;">Some people (ME) really can't afford that kind of nonsense. We need to save our dollars that we bust our butts working six days a week for (True story, I work an average of 50 hours a week). So, I have decided to go through and break down how much I spent, what the average cost is, what I saved and how- for all the different categories. I will also try to include images of my purchase</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"> *My average cost of these wedding items is from the Association of Bridal Consultants in a research study done on January 1, 2014</span><br />
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<strong>Rings: $4,500.00 </strong>I <span style="font-family: inherit;">didn't want a real diamond. They are expensive, pretty pointless, and $1,000 (1/3 of his YEARLY income) buys a very small, chintzy looking ring. Instead we purchased my big, beautiful, glorious ring at a steep discount at Kohl's. Everyone asks me how much it cost, how many carats it is and tells me how gorgeous it is. No one</span> but me knows. I still haven't chosen a wedding band yet, so I'll update on that when I get it. Jake's ring (black band on the left) cost me a whopping $13. <strong>Our total:</strong> $113.00 <strong>What we saved</strong>: $4,387.00<br />
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<strong>Wedding Planners: $2,491.00</strong> Despite the popular belief, having a wedding planner is not mandatory. Your wedding will NOT fall apart and be a massive failure without one (Though I have had people literally tell me that to my FACE). I will not deny that wedding planners can be both helpful and useful- and there were times where hiring one was tempting- but I knew I could do it. The key is to stay organized, keep track of what you are doing and what needs to get done and to research research research. However, that being said; I do have a very close friend of mine who does weddings. She does it because she loves it, not for money and she was very happy to help with my set ups/ take downs.<strong> Our Total</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved:</strong>$2,491.00<br />
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<strong>Photographs:</strong> <strong>$3,091.00</strong>– So many people think you HAVE to have a professional, but you don't. That being said, research out your choices. Even if someone does it for free- if they stink, it isn't worth it. The guy who did my engagements did an amazing job, and they are beautiful- but they really aren't my style<br />
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As you can see, they are still beautiful, well edited, professional looking pictures- and I'm ok with them being more casual and not exactly my style because they are JUST engagment pictures- and hey at 100% free, they were a great deal. That being said, I knew that I was definatley going to want someone else to do my bridals and wedding pictures. I posted on all my Facebook yardsale sites that I was looking for an inexpensive hobbyist that was looking to build their portfolio, and I happened across an amazing lady who was willing to do my beautiful bridals (4 hours worth of pictures!!) for $15. No joke. <br />
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Unfortunately, due to unforeseen circumstances, she wasn't able to make it to the wedding. My mother in law knew I was struggling to find a photographer in my budget- so as a surprise she gave me one as a gift (lol!). I also ended up with my sister in law taking a lot of pictures as well. I haven't got any professional ones back yet- so the ones I'm showing my sister in law took. Photographers were by far the hardest part to find cheap. A lot of hobbyists are intimidated by the importance of the event and pressure to take great photos. Just be patient and keep your budget in mind!! Also- I downloaded the App WedPics, so that my guest could pool all their pictures of my showers, engagement, bachelorette party, wedding etc. into one place.<br />
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*If you do decide to hire a professional CHECK THEIR WORK FIRST. Always, professional or not- no matter what they cost. We almost had a photography disaster over here. My MIL decided to give us a professional photographer for our actual wedding pictures as a gift (she knew I was struggling); so she asked the lady driving our carriage if she has anyone she works with. She did, but he was unavailable. However, HE had a recommendation. My mother in law called this guy, decided on a price worked out details and then gave me a call. I asked if she had seen any of his work, and she said no- but he had come highly recommended and was a professional, so she assumed it would be fine. I told her I wanted to talk to him. She gave me his number and told me to hurry because she was about to send out his check. This felt all sorts of wrong to me. She was going to pay him, without seeing any of his work, and before receiving the goods? In my expeirence, thats how you get screwed. I told her to hold off and I gave the guy a call. He was really nice and cooperative. I told him I wanted to see some samples of his work and he willingly sent them to me. Wow. just wow....He was terrible. The lighting was bad, the bride/grooms faces were shadowed, the pictures weren't flattering, they weren't posed at all, they had not been edited, the composition was bad...It honestly looked like the bride and groom and been at the temple and shouted to a passing stranger "Hey! Can you take a picture for us?" And handed him their cellphone. I'm really not exagerating. Any one of my guests could have taken pictures just as good or better- and here's the kicker. He wanted $250!! <br />
Seriously be so so so careful. He was more money than I could afford and his shots were crap. My bridals and engagements were under $20, and they are beautiful. The word professional means nothing! always check for quality!!<br />
<strong>Total </strong>for Engagement photos, Bridals, wedding photos and reception photos: $15 <strong>What We Saved:</strong>$3,075.00<br />
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<strong>Invitations, Stamps, Save the Date Cards, etc: $1,081.00</strong> I found my invites on clearance and bought them in a kit. The first 100 were $10 for 25 cards, save the dates, and envelopes and were very nice. The other 75 were $5 a box, and are more simple, but just as elegant and include all the same stuff. Stamps were $79.50, but my Mother in Law has offered to pay for postage, so they won't count in my budget. I had my invites, small photos, thank you cards, bachelorette invites, shower invites, temple invites, luncheon invites, address labels, bachelorette detail cards, info cards, and special invites printed and cut out professionally for around $20 at Office Depot (they are so incredible!!) I had originally planned on printing them myself, but my printer broke -.- Total for 175 invitations: $65 Savings: <strong>$1,016 </strong><br />
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<strong>Marriage License</strong> <b>$70.00 </b> ours was total: $55.00 Saved: $15.00<br />
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<b>Ceremony Venue: $2,050.00</b> We are getting married in the LDS Temple, so our venue is free- other ideas are churches, parks, beaches, beautiful back yards, etc. Many venues will let you have both the ceremony and the reception there as part of a package deal. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong> <b>$2050.00</b><br />
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<strong>Ceremony Officiator: $219.00</strong> As I mentioned earlier, we are getting married in the temple, so this is also free for us. Not everyone will have the option of a free officiator- but check around. find someone who fits your needs and styles. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: $219.00<br />
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<strong>Reception Venue: $3,672.00</strong> . Yikes. almost four grand just to use their building? I have decided on using the cultural center at my church, which is nice enough- and free. Other options are parks, backyards, beaches, lakes, camp grounds or places owned by the city, county or non-profit organizations (cheaper!). <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: $3,672.00</div>
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flowers. I have a floral(ish) shop on the side that does boutonnieres, corsages, wreaths, etc for way cheap. That being said- I did not make my flowers. I have flowers for my centerpieces, A beautiful bouquet, wrist corsages for the moms and my sister in law, and boutonnieres for my husband, his father, brother, step-father, and my father. I decided at the beginning of this adventure that I didn't want real flowers (I know, I sound white trash again). A lot of people have this idea that silk flowers are cheap, look cheap, feel cheap and will just look terrible overall- but there have been some amazing leaps and bounds in artificial flowers. Places like hobby lobby have flowers that look so real and feel so real- it's hard to believe they are fake. However, flowers like this can cost some bucco bucks (like 6-10 dollars per single stem). However, I went to Hobby Lobby, and found a selection of pre-made, high quality wedding flowers, in my colors (or at least close enough) too. They had boutonnieres, corsages and bouquets; and they were all 50% off. For my centerpieces, I didn't really care about the flowers looking real. I ended up finding nice enough flowers in my colors at my local Dollar Tree. Flowers for all my center pieces (with some to spare) cost me $12. Now, I did end up spicing up my bouquet a little with ribbon, a couple extra flowers, and a jeweled button- which probably cost me around $8 total, <br />
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<strong>Decorations for the wedding and reception: </strong> <strong>$467.00</strong> Really research this part out. Get a good, <strong> </strong><br />
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<span style="text-align: center;">instead of doing a big meal (expensive), I opted to do veggie platters, berry bowls, cake, and lemon water. The food will probably cost me about $112 for everything. I bought my napkins online and spent about $7. It would have been more, but there was a mishap with colors- so I ended up with three free sets of napkins, and the company refunded my money. Plates, cups, utensils, bowls, champagne flutes cost $96 </span><strong style="text-align: center;">Our Total</strong><span style="text-align: center;">: $220 </span><strong style="text-align: center;">What We Saved: </strong><span style="text-align: center;"> </span><strong style="text-align: center;">$8</strong><span style="text-align: center;">,</span><strong style="text-align: center;">070.00</strong><span style="text-align: center;"> </span><br />
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<strong>Tuxedo rental shoes and accessories: $382.00</strong><span style="line-height: 1.5em;"> This was not included in my budget- and here is why: I liked the look of the more casual suit and tie approach, So Jake decided not to rent a suit, but to buy one that he could wear for other purposes. Because he is buying something he will use other times, I'm not using wedding money for this. We don't have any groomsmen, ring bearers, etc. to rent tuxes for either. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: </span>$382.00 (As a side note, the suit he ended up buying was $60, brand new)<br />
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W<strong>edding dress,veil, accessories: $1,316.00</strong><br />
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Anyone who has been following my wedding chronicles already knows I bought my dress at a thrift store- but you can also look on ksl, classifieds of other kinds, yard sales, etc. I bought my birdcage veil on a 50% of sale; and I got my more traditional veil at a thrift store for $4. I also have a bolaro for my dress that I bought for $10. My wedding shoes were $40 <strong>Our Total:</strong> $76. <strong>What We Saved</strong> <br />
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<strong>Gifts for bridesmaids and parents $344.00 </strong>. I don't have "official brides maids" And honestly, none of them helped me out very much, so I decided against gifts. Neither of our parents are expecting gifts, since they know we are broke. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: <strong>$344</strong><br />
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<strong> Entertainment</strong> <strong>$1,300.00</strong> My mom had this amazing CD of piano love songs and a small sound system, problem solved. For me I've never seen the point of a DJ, since you can do the same thing with an ipod.<strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: $1,300.00<br />
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<strong>Rehearsal dinners, and/or Wedding brunch: $865.00</strong> I'm not going to be doing one, because I don't really think they are necessary unless you are actually planning the wedding and need to rehearse. If you want to do them, do the food potluck style and use a free venue, such as a home, backyard, church or park. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>:$865.00<br />
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<strong>Videography</strong> <strong>$1,152: </strong> Jake and I discussed this and decided against it for us. For me, videoing the reception really isn't that big of a thing- and we can't video the actual ceremony. It wasn't worth the extra effort for us. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: $1,152<br />
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<b>$281 .00</b> Hotel room(s)- I didn't provide hotel rooms for our families. Both of our parents have big enough homes that guests just stayed with them. Most of our guests were either close enough they just went home, or far enough they didn't make the trip at all. <strong>Our Total:</strong> Free <strong>What We Saved</strong>: <b>$281.00</b><br />
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<strong>Honeymoon:</strong> <strong>$3,700.00</strong> - For our honeymoon, we went to Disney Land, and then a few weeks later we stayed in Park City in an amazing villa. The amazing thing about this is that for Disney Land, Jake's adopted father paid for it, and his mom owns a time share at the place in park city.<strong>Our Total:</strong> Free to us <strong>What we saved</strong> $3,700<br />
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<strong> Total Average Costs: 33,753 Our Costs:779.50</strong> (Note: This cost includes my rings, food, and marriage licence - which I am not including in my personal wedding budget. This is because: Jake pays for the ring costs, not me; I have a separate food budget; and the licence is a required cost, no matter what; why spend my special day money on something I can't get married without? Cost without those things is $440)<strong> </strong><br />
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Some people (yourself, your parents/ other people paying for the wedding, (hopefully) your fiance, etc) will appreciate your desire and ability/skills to save money. Others WILL NOT<br />
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I mentioned before that my MIL was trying to pressure me into a bigger cake, that I did not need; and that she hired a photographer, and a horse drawn carriage. Fine, I don't care. I'm a big girl. I said no to the cake, and graciously accepted the gifts of a photographer and the carriage. I'm flexible, and her mind is still set on the concept that $500 can't buy a wedding (but it really, really can).<br />
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I've had people tell me that if I don't hire a professional, my wedding will be a disaster and everyone will hate it and I will be miserable and regret it for the rest of my life. Fine. Some people aren't as capable as me. I thrive under pressure. I love big projects. I love to create and build and decorate and try new things. Not everyone can do that, and some people obviously had bad experiences with their diy weddings. Fine. Water off a ducks back.<br />
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....Are you fricken kidding me? Someone who has literally NEVER met me, sent me a message through the yard sale sites I'm a member of to slam me for trying to save money. I was so furious. But I did the big girl thing. I didn't yell at her, instead I sent her a subtle, chastising email "Thank you so much for your concern about me, my wedding and family...etc" (which was hard because after she wrote me a nasty email, she blocked me....like that was gonna stop me. Seriously. What a coward.) and then I sent copies of her email to the admins of the yard sale groups. </div>
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But I'm still mad. I'm not cheap. I'm frugal (and yes, there really IS a difference). My wedding will probably be nicer than hers (btws, she is unemployed) and I'm not going into debt to do it. She has no right to attack my ability to take care of my future husband or children based off the fact that I'm trying to borrow, rent or buy cheap wedding items. Yeah, I could buy everything- but someone explain to me why I need to buy 15 strands of Christmas lights?? I don't I'd rather borrow or rent from someone who already has them.</div>
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Bottom line- some people are idiots. They are cruel, rude, self righteous and just plain stupid. They need to bash on someone else so they can feel good about themselves. They are bullies. There is nothing wrong with you. Be yourself, do what you can do. Don't let jerkwad people bully you into things you can' afford- and definitely DO NOT let them ruin your wedding. They so aren't worth it.</div>
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TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-54135702773236290042014-06-08T17:56:00.001-07:002014-06-22T11:43:33.654-07:00The Frustrated Bride- Top Frustrations I Encountered during the wedding process1. Nosy/ oppinionated coworkers/people in general<br />
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3.Sending out Shower invites with the wrong dates<br />
4. Having poor shower attendance (total of nine people showed up to my work shower. Of all my friends I invited- one came.)<br />
5.Having people give me gifts not on my registry <br />
6. Having said gifts be ugly as sin, and having no way to return them.<br />
7. People expecting you to ask them for help instead of offering<br />
8. Everyone going on trips and leaving you alone before big events (My parents, MIL, and Fiance were all out of town for my bridals and my first bridal shower)<br />
9. unsolicited opinions from people you have never met on how your wedding should be, and how you should live your life (see wedding drama soap box for that story)TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-35465840317632708282014-06-08T00:03:00.002-07:002014-06-22T11:56:22.144-07:00How I Got What I Wanted- When What I Wanted Was Over Budget <a data-ved="0CAgQjRw4-QI" href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=i&source=images&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&docid=kmJBhwfmjjtbOM&tbnid=DRp8jUBalRSl2M:&ved=0CAgQjRw4-QI&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.annesage.com%2Fblog%2Fpage%2F164%2F&ei=dgCUU7joC5GgyATGyYCIBQ&psig=AFQjCNHj9wkmdWNe13DJ1d6F51TnSwl74g&ust=1402294774265946" id="irc_mil" style="border: 0px currentColor; clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img src="http://www.annesage.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/08/18/apog8056_3.jpg" height="320" id="irc_mi" style="margin-top: 12px;" width="121" /></a>As I was planning my wedding, I had several visions for the aesthetics. There were definitely things that I fell irrevocably in love with. <strong>Exhibit A: </strong>Butter Mints. In Jake's family, after a meal you have gum or some sort of mint; that's just how it is. So I kind of wanted to provide some. Then I saw pictures like this one, and was overwhelmed by the image of beautiful, tasty pastel mints tucked into jars. <strong>The Problem:</strong> To buy enough mints was around $86. I could have pre boxed them- but then my desired affect is gone. <br />
<strong>The Fix:</strong> I made all my mints. Does that sound insane? Guess what, I fell in love with making butter mints. They are so simple and so tasty and I can whip up a batch in just a couple minutes- and the ingredients are simple: Powder sugar, salted butter, cream, mint extract, butter flavor, almond extract, food coloring. Now the original recipe doesn't call for butter flavor or almond extract. I use butter flavoring because when you set the mints out to dry, if they have too much butter (oil that can't evaporate) in them, they will stay soft (and while yummy, they will mush and make a mess). In order to get harder mints, I scaled down on the butter- but then I lost that delicious buttery richness. I use the butter flavor to get that taste, while still getting dryer mints. <br />
the almond extract, I find, makes the mints taste richer and sweeter and really helps the mint flavor to pop. Once I saw the ingredients, there was no way I was going to pay anyone $86 for powder sugar and butter. I was worried it might be hard, because I've never made candy- but small children could do this.<br />
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<a href="http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/80/dc/1d/80dc1d41a208daf7ccbc1062bb66b1d9.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="French macaroons" border="0" class="pinImg fullBleed loaded" src="http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/80/dc/1d/80dc1d41a208daf7ccbc1062bb66b1d9.jpg" height="320" width="211" /></a><strong>Exhibit B</strong>: French macaroons. They are just so stunning and breath takingly gorgeous. They serve as a dessert and a centerpiece. <strong>The problem:</strong> French macaroons cost about $1.75 A PIECE at the store. Even going through my special discounted connection, the were still $.50 a piece. My caterer said I could use them as my favors and put a cookie in a take away box- that way they'd only cost around $88.5 My issue with this though was that A: I have never eaten a french macaroon. They could be nasty. I was buying them for the glamour; because my girly girl, fancy sparkly elegance seeking heart wanted this ===><br />
If I boxed up individual macaroons, I wouldn't be able to have a beautiful tower like this, and if I'm not getting the look I want, why even bother? B. Each person gets one cookie. That feels SO chintzy cheap to me. I hate chintzy cheap. I hate cheapskate brides- and here's my big thing: You know something is out of your budget when you can barely scrape by. I can't ACTUALLY afford this beautiful concept and pretending I can by buying everyone ONE measly cookie just cheapens up everything and makes me look bad and poor. It's not classy. I'm a classy Bride. Oppulance is how you create the illusion of wealth<br />
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<strike>Make center pieces</strike><br />
<strike>buy lanterns</strike><br />
<strike>buy flowers</strike><br />
<strike>buy arch</strike><br />
<strike>buy bouquet</strike><br />
<strike>finish boutonnieres and corsages</strike><br />
<strike>fix veil</strike><br />
<strike>finalize menu</strike><br />
<strike>set up engagement photo appointment</strike><br />
<strike>make guest list</strike><br />
<strike>get passport</strike><br />
<strike>choose cake</strike><br />
<strike>Make registries</strike><br />
<strike>get gift card holder</strike><br />
<strike>find someone to make cake</strike><br />
<strike>get puzzle made</strike><br />
<strike>find suit/tux for Jake</strike><br />
<strike>buy Jake's ring</strike><br />
<strike>book temple</strike><br />
<strike>Take invite to post office to check price</strike><br />
<strike>book church</strike><br />
<strike>address envelopes</strike><br />
<strike>send out invites</strike><br />
<strike>get invites printed</strike><br />
<strike>make invites</strike><br />
<strike>buy stamps</strike><br />
<strike>buy address labels</strike><br />
<strike>get prints for invites</strike><br />
<strike>find location for bridals</strike><br />
<strike>find photographer for bridals</strike><br />
<strike>find photographer for engagements</strike><br />
<strike>find photographer for wedding</strike><br />
<strike>print labels</strike><br />
<strike>dye hair</strike><br />
<strike>find shoes</strike><br />
<strike>do nails</strike><br />
<strike>find veil</strike><br />
<strike>set appointment for bridals</strike><br />
<strike>make signs</strike><br />
<strike>talk to neighbors about helping</strike><br />
<strike>look for mints</strike><br />
<strike>take pictures of how set ups should look/ write instructions</strike><br />
<strike>create list of items that need to go and (more importantly) come home</strike><br />
<strike>Make list of people for Jake to contact</strike><br />
<strike>make list for MiL to contact</strike><br />
<strike>make utensil rolls</strike><br />
<strike>Coordinate plans with helpers</strike><br />
<strike>compile all instructions and details</strike><br />
<strike>call M. about cake</strike><br />
<strike>Ask people to look for mints at stores</strike><br />
<strike>Have Jake round up last minute invitees</strike><br />
<strike>call people about decorations I'm borrowing</strike><br />
<strike>Make list of people to call instead of me</strike><br />
<strike>Find bachelorette photographer</strike><br />
<strike>Make appointment with bishop</strike><br />
<strike>find out postage to foreign countries</strike><br />
<strike>Take Jake's measurements for suit alterations</strike><br />
<strike>Buy dishes, utensils and napkins</strike><br />
<strike>buy waxing kit and try waxing</strike><br />
make butter mints<br />
<strike>make appointment with stake president</strike><br />
apply for marriage licence<br />
Take out endowment<br />
look into buying more tulle<br />
paint folding curtains<br />
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do boudoir photos<br />
Take bridal, bachelorette, and engagement pictures to be printed<br />
Call wedding photographer<br />
Call carriage driver<br />
call gyno about bc<br />
make wedding emergency kit<br />
Get temple dress and accessories<br />
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make garter<br />
hem Jake's pants<br />
finish invites<br />
Talk to coordinator<br />
look for wedding band<br />
buy tulle<br />
<strike>buy punch fountain</strike><br />
<strike>buy cake platters</strike><br />
<strike>find picture frames</strike><br />
<strike>meet with caterer</strike>TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-22490056765097243772014-06-06T02:19:00.001-07:002014-06-22T12:10:41.551-07:00My Top 20 Money Saving SecretsSo Many times I will see blog posts titled things like "How I had an inexpensive wedding" or tips and tricks to have a beautiful wedding on a tight budget", etc. Here are my problems with those posts:<br />
1. the budgets provided are 3x+ mine. 2. a great deal of how they saved money is stuff like "My mom is a caterer, my sister is a professional photographer, My aunt runs a motel"....Well gee. That really helps me, doesn't it? <br />
So because of the complete lack of useful info out there, I have decided to make this post of my Top 20 ways to ACTUALLY have a low budget (and still beautiful) Wedding.<br />
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* If you would like to see pictures of my dress, ring, decor,photos, etc. AND how much each category of my wedding cost, Check out my <a href="http://thespokensiren.blogspot.com/2014/05/weddings-on-cheap-average-cost-vs.html" target="_blank">Weddings on the Cheap: Average Cost vs. The Thrifty Bride</a> post<br />
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<strong>1.</strong> <strong>Save save save.</strong>When I was 19 years old, I decided I wanted to get married. I didn't know to whom, or when- but I knew that I wanted to, so I made a special account at my bank, and every paycheck I put $20 into my wedding fund. Now, at 23, My wedding is completely paid for, And so is most of the honeymoon. This way, spending the cash on the wedding doesn't hurt me, because it's not coming out of my current cash flow. Start saving as early as possible, and make your amount something doable. Trying to put huge amounts in will be hard if you have a little income<br />
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<strong>2. Set a Budget:</strong> I had mine set long before I even met my fiance, but you can sit down with him and your parents or whoever and do this too. Figure out how much you REALLY want to spend. Don't think about costs you know, or compare weddings of relatives. Pretend we live in a perfect world where you can find amazing deals on everything. Consider what to you sounds like A LOT of money. I make minimum wage. A thousand dollars sounds like a lot. Whenever I think about spending more than that on a wedding I cringe. There's so much more I could do with that money that I would enjoy more. Go through your current expenses and decide how much you can afford to spend WITHOUT GOING IN DEBT. Trust me, debt is bad. Don't do it<br />
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<strong>3. Give yourself "Wiggle Room":</strong> My budget is insanely low. Not because I can't afford more- I could if I wanted to. By budgeting so low though, I challenge myself to try harder to save money. However, because I budgeted for way less than I can afford, If I do go a little over budget and spend say, $600 dollars- I'm not in trouble. The only thing that suffers is my pride- knowing I couldn't do it. If your budget is something you can barely afford, like $5,000 for example; there isn't room for error. if you go over you could risk going into debt. If you fall in love with something that is a bit outside your budget, you may have to give it up. Budgeting for more than you can afford or barely what you can afford might make you feel like you can be looser with the money (I like these cups, I'll just buy them, I have enough money), and in the long run might restrict you more.<br />
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<strong>4. Use a Debit Card: </strong>I didn't personally use this one, because by the time I heard about it it was too late- but I really wish I had. Set up a debit card that goes straight to your wedding account, and use only this card to pay for your wedding purchases. This will help you better track your budget, cut down on confusion, and allow you to track where your money is going.<br />
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<strong>5. Research. research research research.</strong> Look up facts things like how much food to serve at a party, how many people to REALLY plan on (little hint: My caterer friend said that you take the number of invites you actually sent- and that's about how many to plan on. some say to add 20, just to be safe). Spend time writing down who you want to invite, and get an educated idea of what you want and what you are doing. The most popular advice you will get on other (bogus) money saving wedding blogs is to invite 100 people or less at your wedding. I fell into that trap thinking "oh that makes sense, less people, less expense. When I sat down though and wrote out just the names of my FAMILY (grandparents, cousins, uncles and aunts ONLY) I was at 70 invites...Well I sure wasn't going to cut out any of my family members, and I wasn't going to ask Jake to cut his list down to 30. Plus, what about all my friends? What about his friends? Nobody, including me, would have been happy. The more I researched and planned, the more I realized this tip is BOGUS. Instead of not inviting anyone, don't serve a full meal, or expensive foods.<strong> </strong><br />
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<strong>6. Have a solid plan FIRST:</strong> Being a bride is exciting, there's so much to do, and if you are doing this on your own like me- your natural instinct is to get out there and get stuff done. Stop. One of my biggest regrets is that I ran right out and bought items before having a solid, well thought out plan. I bought cups for my drinks, bowls for my berries, plates for my cake, and cups for my jello- then realized I wasn't going to use jello. So now I had all these empty cups. I decided to put the berries in the cups, then I could use the bowls for vegetables. Well now I've decided to have sandwiches as well. If I use the plates for sandwiches; 1. I have nothing to put the cake on and 2. Why do the vegetables need their own bowl? See the problem? I bought a lot of things simply because I was just excited to start planning my wedding. Don't do that. Be smart and think it out completely before you buy ANYTHING. Be sure to identify your personal style too. Do you want rustic, shabby chic, vintage, classic, etc. Deciding this early will help everything look more cohesive, expensive and well planned.<br />
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<strong>7. </strong>.<strong>Start Collecting:</strong> Before I even met my fiance, I was on the look for really good deals on wedding stuff. I also used opportunities like Christmas and my birthday to ask for things that would be useful for my wedding (Crystal platters, punch bowls, cake plates, etc) Be sure though that you have already done tip five and six, or this might end up costing more in the long run.<br />
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<strong>8</strong>. <strong>Pool your resources</strong>. Talk to your mom, dad, cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents, neighbors, co-workers, fiance's family as soon as you possibly can. Chances are some of them have awesome talents, or friends with awesome talents, that would be more than happy to help you out. Women especially like being involved in weddings. This is one that I seriously wish I had done sooner. It's due to pooling my resources that my wedding has exploded. As it turns out, Jake has a cousin who makes wedding cakes, a cousin who runs a horse drawn carriage business, a cousin who rents out decorations to brides, a close friend who runs a catering and wedding business, etc.Going over these details will save you a ton of time and money<br />
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<strong>9.</strong> <strong>Analyze What Goes Into The Budget:</strong> Here's something a bit unorthodox that I did: Just because I bought it for the wedding, didn't automatically mean it came out of my wedding budget. <br />
<strong>Here was my system: </strong>Is this something I will use a lot? Is this something I need? Is this something I would buy myself anyway? If I don't buy this now will I buy it later? Items that were excluded from my budget: cake platters, apothecary jars, temple clothes, punch fountain, Jake's suit, etc.<strong> why?</strong> They were all items I knew I would use a million times over, and they were all things I had wanted long before the wedding. I also realized if I didn't buy them now, I would buy them later<br />
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<strong>10. Identify your dream: </strong>When I first started planning my wedding I heard some advice. "When you picture your dream wedding, what is it that makes it your dream? Is it the dress, the venue, the cake? Pick the center of your dream and splurge for it. Skimp on everything else. This is such great advice. In my head I see such a sophisticated, beautiful wedding. Everything is sleek, suave, expensive. The venue is gorgeous, I look amazing, I'm mingling with guests like this is some high society soiree. I have an awe inspiring cake, a harp player, and all the bells and whistles. Yeah, that's going to happen. So I started going through my dream wedding and cutting out all the things that aren't important enough to me to spend boo-coo bucks on. Do you know what I ended up with? Jake. With all my dreaming, the only thing that really mattered was that Jake and I were getting married. Sappy, huh? After that it was food. I spent more money than I needed to on my dishes (though they are still plastic and paper) to get a more sophisticated look- and I don't regret it. Be choosy. Decide what is most important to you, and spend the money.<br />
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<strong>11</strong>.<strong>A Wedding Is A Party:</strong> This is a detail a lot of brides tend to forget.While it may be the biggest, fanciest party you ever throw- it still is just that; a party. . And believe it or not, a party is about the guests, not the hostess. I love elegance and presentation as much as the next girl; but I also realized that in five, ten, fifteen years- no one is going to remember what my colors were, what my dress looked like, what foods I served, If I had a DJ, or If the ceilings and walls were pretty. Things that <strong>will</strong> be remembered: How much work the wedding was, If the bride was selfish, If the guests had a good time. No matter how big or small, the goal should always be to make sure your guests enjoy themselves. You can have a million dollar wedding with all the bells and whistles, but if your guests have a miserable time; it's still going to be a big flop. Money doesn't buy happiness- and appearances aren't everything. A lot of brides think they need to" keep up with the Jones' ". You Don't. <br />
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<strong>12. </strong> <strong>Some Corners Are Meant to Be Cut: </strong>Tradition? Bah Humbug! Guess what? this is your day (which people will love to remind you). Go through all the weddings you have been to/ seen and edit them to your liking. Cut out things you hate. Not only can this save you stress, embarrassment, time and make for a happier bride (and therefore happier guests), but it can also save you money. <strong>Things we cut:</strong> Dancing (no need for dance lessons, a DJ, or a dance floor), ring ceremony (no need for flower girl:dress, basket, flowers, Ring bearer: pillow, tux) speeches, toasts (no need for champagne or fancy drinks, or microphone), formal introductions, garter toss/ bouquet toss (no need for spares), agendas (no need for programs), decorating cars. <br />
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<strong>13</strong>. <strong>Be Wary of the words "Bridal" and "Wedding" </strong> Two big things I learned are 1. Everyone is really proud of their work and thinks it's worth a lot of money 2.Put the word "bridal" or "Wedding" in front of ANYTHING and it instantly doubles in price. Don't be gullible.<br />
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<strong>14.</strong> <strong>Price Check</strong> Do your research, look at multiple stores. I wrote down in a note book what stores had what items, what the prices were and what the quantities were. Then I bought each item from the cheapest stores.<br />
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<strong>15.</strong> <strong>Cut "Unnecessary" Costs: Costs I cut:</strong> My ring, flowers, decor, photography, cake, wedding dress, venue, invitations, food (kind of). Decide what you personally are ok with. I was ok with having a CZ ring (they can be so beautiful and only jewelers can tell they are cz if you get a good one), I was ok with buying my decor at thrift shops, yard sales, dollar stores, and ebay. I was ok with getting my dress at a thrift shop. I was ok with (high quality) silk flowers. I was ok with using my church for the reception. I was ok with borrowing things from people. If you think about it and aren't ok with those things, don't do them- but if you are, it's a great way to save thousands.<br />
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<strong>16. S</strong><strong>hop Cheap. </strong>Use coupons, shop sales, go to stores like NPS (stores for damaged goods, overstock, etc.When shopping here, be picky! check expiration dates, be sure you know what you want. These stores can be hit and miss as they don't have a solid inventory), thrift stores, dollar stores, the Internet etc.This is how I saved most of my money. I didn't pay full price for anything. I cut coupons, enlisted friends to use their coupons, and shopped sales (Hobby Lobby is great for this. They're merchandise is frequently 50% off, and you can get a 40% off coupon anytime)<br />
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<strong>17</strong>. <strong>Be sure. </strong>When you decide to cut a cost, be sure it's what you want. I scored my dress for $25, which is an amazing deal- but I'm not in love with it. In fact it's the only thing I'm not really in love with. It's good enough, and it's lovely, and I'm sure I won't buy a new one- but I wish I had shopped around a little more. Saving money doesn't do a whole lot of good if you aren't happy; because chances are, you'll end up re buying.<br />
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<strong> 18.</strong> <strong>Professionals Are A CHOICE:</strong> Since being engaged, so many people have tried to pressure me into hiring professionals. some people have even gone so far as to tell me (to my face) that if I didn't hire a professional wedding planner, my wedding would be a huge, horrible disaster and I'd regret it forever...um wow. two major things you need to remember is that 1. Everyone is really proud of their work and thinks it worth a lot of money (professional or not), 2.People are sheep. If something is considered "the norm" then clearly, it's the only way something could ever be done. If you want to hire a pro, that's fine- just keep in mind Cakes are $300 and up, photographers are $100-$300+ easy, Florists are $200+, etc etc. When considering "wedding professionals" (DJs, decorators, makeup artists, hair stylists, caterers, wedding planners, etc) Ask yourself how much you REALLY need them. Do you need a DJ, or can you just make an Ipod playlist? Do you need a decorator or can you plan things out with the help of your family/friends? Do you need a makeup artist/hair stylist, or do you have a friend/ sister that can do it? can you do it yourself? Do you really need to have food catered or can you make it yourself in advance? Do you actually NEED a wedding planner?<br />
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<strong>19.</strong> <strong>Graciously Accept Help:</strong> There are so many people who will want to help. Let them. It's great to want to be independent- but weddings take a lot of time, effort, and money and cause a lot of stress. Delegate. Let people lend/give you things. Let them make food. It makes them feel useful and needed and will keep you from going insane<br />
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TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-12819690473552101412014-06-04T12:14:00.000-07:002014-06-06T00:27:32.926-07:00Wedding UpdatesWeddings are hard. The harder I work, the longer my list of things I need to accomplish gets. As we've discussed before, I don't have lots of money- and right now (due to my own personal choice) I'm unemployed because planning the final details of my wedding (which is only 24 days away folks!) , while working full time 6-7 days a week was just too much. <br />
Due to my lack of funds- I always planned on a small diy wedding.....That's not what's happening. I'm still having my inexpensive wedding, but I've given myself some wiggle room. For example my budget is significantly less than I'm willing to spend, at $500. I have probably gone a little bit over budget by now and spent $600. oh no. My point is that by giving myself a tighter budget, I can analyze and decide if something is worth the money, and I try harder to find better deals so that I can get as much as possible for my cash- but if I do go over budget sightly, it's not catastrophic because I have a cushion.<br />
One piece of advice I have, that I did not personally use because I didn't find it until after I was mostly done was that once you have your budget set, take the money and put it in a account set up with a debit card and ONLY use that card (aka THAT money) for all your purchases. That way it's easy to track your budget and you don't get confused and mixed up on what purchases were for your wedding, or where the money was spent- etc.<br />
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Have a solid plan FIRST: One of my biggest regrets is that I bought items before having a solid, well thought out plan. I bought cups for my drinks, bowls for my berries, plates for my cake, and cups for my jello- then realized I wasn't going to use jello. So now I had all these empty cups. I decided to put the berries in the cups, then I could use the bowls for vegetables. Well now I've decided to have sandwiches as well. If I use the plates for sandwiches; 1. I have nothing to put the cake on and 2. Why do the vegetables need their own bowl? See the problem? I bought a lot of things simply because I was just excited to start planning my wedding. Don't do that. Be smart and think it out completely before you buy ANYTHING<br />
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Pool your resources. Seriously guys- I wish I had done this sooner. I spent money on all this stuff; and then I got talking to my fiance and his mom. Turns out, he has a cousin who makes wedding cakes, a cousin who runs a horse drawn carriage business, a cousin who rents out decorations to brides, a close friend who runs a catering and wedding business...For real? All these people were more than happy to help me out. The caterer friend was willing to help with decor, food, thank you cards, invites, favors, grand exit, etc....if only I'd known. I could have saved myself so much money and got much nicer things. Live and learn right?<br />
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Its due to the pooling resources that my wedding has exploded: Professional cake, chandeliers, bistro lights, draperies for the ceiling, silver crushed fabric table cloths, chair covers/ sashes, back drops for the wedding arch, horse drawn carriage, wedding coordinator to make it all happen- my wedding isn't exactly small anymore.. But that isn't bad. I recently crunched my numbers and realized I'm actually UNDER BUDGET!! :D which means I can make some little splurges here and there (Nothing big, I only have two hundred twenty dollars left). Here's the thing though, I micro annalyzed my purchases. A lot of things I bought didn't go into my wedding budget. <br />
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Here was <strong>my system</strong>: Is this something I will use alot? Is this something I need? Is this something I would buy myself anyway? If I don't buy this now will I buy it later?<br />
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<strong>Items that were excluded from my budget:</strong> cake platters, apothacary jars, temple clothes, punch fountain, Jake's suit, etc. <strong>why?</strong> They were all items I knew I would use a million times over, and they were all things I had wanted long before the wedding. I also realized if I didn't buy them now, I would buy them later.<br />
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TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-82517921400187158972014-04-27T02:20:00.001-07:002014-06-06T03:46:07.282-07:00A Guide to Showers & Bachelorette Parties- Why Parties & Guests Are Your FriendsThis is going to sound totally rude- but its true, so, Sorry, but I'm not sorry.<br />
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A lot of brides will skip the bridal shower or the bachelorette party. Don't. <br />
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There's a movie I saw that says "I guess it [in reference to wedding gifts] is like a investment fund, we put money in, that we hope to get back some day when we get married."<br />
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<strong>Have Showers and a bachelorette party:</strong> For some reason when I was growing up, I always thought you had either or. But the idea of inviting my wild and crazy friends to a shower with my aunts made me cringe (trust me, I already know the kinds of gifts they'll get) and visa versa. Then I had the revolutionary idea: Why not have both. Invite the more civilized people to a sophisticated shower- then get crazy with your girls later. As a bonus, I've made sure to let them know they're gifts are acceptable at the bachelorette party ;)<br />
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<strong>Let People Throw You Showers:</strong> Obviously my MoH was going to throw me a shower. But then my co-worker decided she wanted to throw one too...And while I was out delivering invites a Lady in my ward decided she wanted to throw me a ward shower (other girls had gotten them, and she didn't want me to fall through the cracka and be left out; which is very sweet) And I told them all yes. More showers=more guests which= more presents. Plus that way, one person won't be overwhelmed by having to host EVERYONE on my list all at once.<br />
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<strong>Have Fun!!</strong> I'm really excited for my parties (particularly my bachelorette party) because no one has ever thrown me a party before. I usually have to do all the work- and believe it or not it sounds kind of nice to get to be the center of attention and not have to worry about being a hostess, or set up or costs. Also, I haven't seen most of these people in a long time/ don't get to see them often. I'm excited to chat and relaxe with people I know and love. And of course, I'm excited to binge, laugh, hang out and party with my girls like the good ol' days. Since we grew up and became adults, we haven't done much of that.<br />
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<strong>Make Sure the Hostess Knows What You Want</strong> I'm by nature a non-conformist. I hate being forced into doing things- and shower games are for sure NOT my thing. I think they are lame and stupid. In my pinteresting though, I have found some ideas I like. If you have stuff you want and don't want- let your hostess know<br />
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<strong>Have A Scribe</strong> appoint someone as record keeper. Have them write down the item , giver and what party (bachelorette, wedding, shower) you recieved it at. This will make things a million times easier when it comes time for thank you cards- especially if you recieve multiple gifts from that person.<br />
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<strong>Invite Everyone. </strong>While my reception and wedding are researved for close friends, family, and other special people- pretty much everyone I have ever met has been invited to my showers. That way if they come, more gifts. If they don't, oh well- but at least they feel included.TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-67501428419005907792014-04-27T02:11:00.000-07:002014-06-06T02:37:45.081-07:00What No One Tells You about RegistriesI'm going to let you in n a little secret that no one will ever tell you- wedding registries are HARD. I was there too- A new bride to be, all excited to nest into her first place, marry the man she loved and get lots of great stuff she didn't have to pay for. For some reason we all seem to have this idea that you just breeze on in to a store, grab a registry gun and walk around hand in hand with your fiance, playing lazer tag with the scanners and wahlah presents! (I think Hollywood may be to blame for this) But boy did I get a reality check. So, Here are some of my tips to make this a smidgen less of a nightmare.<br />
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<strong> </strong>2. <strong>Make A list. </strong>Long before you head to the stores, write down everything you want or need. To make this easier on yourself, group them into categories or rooms (or both) put all the bathroom stuff together, kitchen, living room, etc. This will help you from accidentally skipping over items when you start the registry. Also make several copies of this list so you can cross off each item as you register for it at each store- and have a blank one to cross off items as you get them. This will make it easy to see what you still need to buy with any gift cards/money from returns you might receive.<br />
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3. <strong>Style. </strong>Determine what your color scheme and style is before you start to register. Have in mind what you want each room to look like- this will save you time in the long run because you can look only at black toasters instead of all of them at once. This will also help things match.<br />
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4. <strong>Decide where you want to register</strong>. This is important to know beforehand. I suggest choosing 2-3 places because it's very possible one store won't have everything you want. Call ahead before you go and find out: <br />
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5. <strong>Register for Everything.</strong> Jake lives in an apartment with some roommates, so he has his own dishes, microwave, toaster etc; but I'm registering for all that stuff anyway because <br />
1) Jake is a college student his belongings are...eclectic (to put it nicely) and worn. Buying new stuff will ensure that everything matches, and is functional<br />
2)If no one buys us the new replacement items, we still can use the old ones to get by until we can afford new ones- but if they do buy us new stuff I can sell the (nicer) old ones at a yard sale and get money for things we need.<br />
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6. <strong>Don't Do it All At Once. </strong>It's tempting, and I did it- but I have something like 63 days before my wedding- so I'm rushed. Trying to do it all in one shot is exhausting, it's frustrating and you will get cranky (I'm pretty sure I bit Jake's head off more than once, and even cried). It's not fun or fast or easy like it looks in movies. You're making a lot of big decisions and wading through tons of crap to find what you want. This will take time. Days. It took me four days (mostly after work, so close to 50 hours total) to complete mine.<br />
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7. <strong>If You Want it, Register for it.</strong> When my fiance and I finally went together, he floated towards the electronics and was fidgeting with the scanner. I asked him if he wanted to scan something and he nodded and told me a ps4- but that he knew no one would buy it, so he shouldn't bother, and that registries weren't for that and that he shouldn't register for selfish "for him" items. I told him to do it. It takes 3 seconds to scan, and if no one buys it, it doesn't hurt us any. If they do- he got something he really wanted, that we can't afford. Not every gift has to be useful, some can be just for fun. My MoH registered for a freezer- and got it. She said it was the thing she was the most happy about registering for. She also registered for movies, and regrets not registering for more. <br />
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8. <strong>He Doesn't Care- </strong>and that's ok. Save yourself a bucket load of stress right now by realizing that your wonderful fiance loves you, he really does- and it's not personal that he doesn't understand why it is so important the appliances match, or what color the guest towels are. Don't pick fights with him or stress over it- guys just don't really care about those kind of details- and if he does have an opinion- listen to him, ask why he does or doesn't want an item, or why he thinks something else is better. Explain how you plan to decorate and make sure he approves- but don't fret if he shrugs or says "what ever you like" or "If you're happy I'm happy." It means he trusts you and doesn't hate it. If he hates it, he'll let you know (probably).<br />
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9. <strong>Register in all price ranges.</strong> This one is the obvious one that everyone tells you. Register for cheap things and expensive things. Some people will buy a bunch of little things and give them to you together, some people will want to group together and buy you a big item, and sometimes, people's generosity will just plain surprise you.<br />
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10. <strong>Register online.</strong> This may sound like a bit of a hassle, and it kind of is. It probably takes longer than traditional registering- but here's why I like it. </div>
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<li>I can read reviews on each item, or look it up on other sites for reviews</li>
<li>I can do research on items, like how big a 1.3 cubic foot microwave is, or what to look for in an iron</li>
<li>I can do it at my convenience. I work until 6 pm, and I don't want to spend my Saturdays with Jake registering at stores. This way I can start after work and go until I'm tired without worrying about store hours or other people.</li>
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10. <strong>Register at Bed Bath and Beyond FIRST.</strong> When someone I knew registered there, I thought they were being snobby. All the items on their registry could be bought at walmart for 1/3 the cost. I thought it was a pride thing. When I talked to my Matron of Honor, she told me she didn't register there for that reason, and because she didn't think there was anything there that she needed. Wow, we were so wrong.</div>
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<li>Bed Bath and Beyond has everything. Jewelry, pet supplies, grills, microwaves, massaging cushions, beauty products, fryers, fine china, you name it- they got it.</li>
<li>Their site is SO easy to use. It is organized, quick and user friendly. It was by far the best registry experience I had.</li>
<li>They have registry incentives. If you receive so many dollars worth of certain brands- that company will send you free gifts (just for getting gifted their stuff)! Gifts include hostess sets, wine goblets, utensils, etc.</li>
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My advice is to go through your list at Bed Bath and Beyond first, then if you can't find items you like or want, use target or walmart (or other similar stores) to fill in the blanks. <br />
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*As a warning- registering online at walmart was the worst experience I have ever had. I spent 12 hours STRAIGHT working on my online registry there, and completed one room. If you want to use them, know exactly what you want before hand.<br />
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**As a side note, if you go to Target in person to register (which I did for a few last minute items) they give you a small stack of very cute thankyou cards, some coupons, and a card for 10% off everything left on your registry after the wedding.<br />
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11. <strong>Multiples</strong> when I was going through things, I'd find several lamps I liked- so I registered for them all. I can go through later and delete the ones I don't like as much. Same goes for registering for similar items at different stores. When you are done registering, go through and clean it up. This will save time and stress in the long run.TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-52148491112001650792014-04-15T22:31:00.002-07:002014-06-06T02:38:50.227-07:00How to REALLY Have a Low Cost WeddingAnyone who has been reading my blog knows that I'm getting married. In my peruses through pinterest, I have tried to find ways to have an inexpensive wedding. According to the Internet- they do <strong>not</strong> exist! I'd see a blog that said things like "Have a caviar wedding on a tuna budget" "How to have a cheap but lovely wedding" "How not to go into debt on your wedding"....And then the budgets they were aiming for were things like $20,000; $15,000; more! YIKES. Guess what my budget was. No, guess. <br />
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1. I'm not from a rich family, and I know they can't afford to pay for my wedding, So I have to take responsibility for it. I'm 22, I work at a daycare for minimum wage-A 20 grand wedding on my own? not happening.<br />
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2. I DO NOT want to start of my brand new married life in debt. Jake and I are lucky, we don't have a lot of expenses (And I'd like to keep it that way)- but neither Jake or myself will have a ton of money either. Ideally, I'd like to be able to use the money we do have for things we want- new furniture, trips, a puppy, saving for a house, kids, etc.<br />
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3. A wedding is a party. Plain and simple, you are throwing a big party. And believe it or not, a party is about the guests, not the hostess. I love elegance and presentation as much as the next girl; but I also realized that in five, ten, fifteen years- no one is going to remember what my colors were, what my dress looked like, what foods I served, If I had a DJ, or If the ceilings and walls were pretty. Things that <strong>will</strong> be remembered: How much work the wedding was, If the bride was selfish, If the guests had a good time. You can have a million dollar wedding, but have a miserable time. Money doesn't buy happiness- and appearances aren't everything. A lot of brides think they need to" keep up with the Jones' ". You Don't.<br />
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4. Could I have saved more than $500? Yes, I could (and did). However, I really wanted to push myself and see if I could have a nice wedding on an itsy bitsy budget. So far- I have been on budget, however, I have decided to add $200 to the budget so I can have better quality food (This money is SPECIFICALLY for food and NOTHING else though). Anyone who has been to my parties knows I am all about food- and there is nothing I hate more than going to a party and having crappy/no/one selection of food. <br />
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**Things to keep in mind- My $500 dollar budget does NOT include my honeymoon (which I have saved up for and will be able to pay for), tuxes/suits, or my wedding band/ engagment ring. Also, as a disclaimer. I am LDS- so the actual "Wedding" part is free for me- which cuts down a lot of costs/ stress. However, a lot of LDS girls thinks that means they need to compensate by having an even BIGGER reception. So- this is technically how to have a cheap reception.<br />
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Alright, I'm done with my soap box. Are you ready to hear how I've managed to spend so little? Here we go.<br />
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First off- Be careful in the Bridal world guys! Don't be gullible. As I embarked on this wedding journey, I learned two big things. 1. Everyone is really proud of their work and thinks it's worth a lot of money 2.Put the word "bridal" or "Wedding" in front of ANYTHING and it instantly doubles in price.<br />
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As I began looking into things, I discovered just how expensive things are. Cakes are $300 and up, photographers are $100-$300+ easy, Florists are $200+, etc etc. People (usually professionals) will try to pressure/guilt you into thinking you need a professional or else your entire wedding will be a disaster. NO.When considering "wedding professionals" (DJs, decorators, makeup artists, hair stylists, caterers, wedding planners, etc) Ask yourself how much you REALLY need them. Do you need a DJ, or can you just make an Ipod playlist? Do you need a decorator or can you plan things out with the help of your family/friends? Do you need a makeup artist/hair stylist, or do you have a friend/ sister that can do it? can you do it yourself? Do you really need to have food catered or can you make it yourself in advance? Do you actually NEED a wedding planner? (half the time, you will want to scream "YES!!" at the top of your lungs, but you can do this.)<br />
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<strong>Learning to Let go...or not: </strong>When I first started planning my wedding I heard some advice. "When you picture your dream wedding, what is it that makes it your dream? Is it the dress, the venue, the cake? Pick the center of your dream and splurge for it. Skimp on everything else. This is such great advice. In my head I see such a sophisticated, beautiful wedding. Everything is sleek, suave, expensive. The venue is gorgeous, I look amazing, I'm mingling with guests like this is some high society soiree. I have an awe inspiring cake, a harp player, and all the bells and whistles. Yeah, that's going to happen. So I started going through my dream wedding and cutting out all the things that aren't important enough to me to spend boo-coo bucks on. Do you know what I ended up with? Jake. With all my dreaming, the only thing that really mattered was that Jake and I were getting married. Sappy, huh? After that it was food. I spent more money than I needed to on my dishes (though they are still plastic and paper) to get a more sophisticated look- and I don't regret it.<br />
<strong>Style:</strong> Before you get too far into the planning process, take some time to think over weddings you've been to. What did you like? What things did you hate? Here Are some things I hate about weddings: <br />
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<li>Garter tosses. Yeah, let's wear something sexy that should be for my man's eye's only, let him dig around under my dress (in front of everyone) and let him fling said sexy item to a bunch of men that I'm not in love with. Big fan</li>
<li>Bouquet tosses. I hate being forced by other family members to participate. Leave me alone.</li>
<li>Reception Lines.</li>
<li>Lack of food</li>
<li>Huge weddings that take HOURS to put up and take down</li>
<li>Dances</li>
<li>Agendas</li>
<li>Decorating cars</li>
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So, guess what? Since this is my wedding, there won't be a garter/ bouquet toss, there won't be dancing (no need for a DJ), there will be food, everything will be relaxed- not ultra structured, and pictures will mostly be done before hand, and my decor will be simple. Unfortunately the line is a necessary evil- but I'll live. And to anyone reading this: DON'T YOU DARE DECORATE MY CAR. Once you decide what you do and don't like, you can make a wedding that is custom fit to you. If you're doing lots of things you don't like/are uncomfortable with- you won't be happy and an unhappy bride is the biggest cause of wedding mishaps.<br />
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<strong>Ring:</strong> A ring is a symbol of our love- it doesn't define it. Having a small ring or a fake ring- or no ring at all doesn't mean Jake loves me any less than the guy who gives his bride a 1k ring. I'm also very clumsy. How sad would it be to have a huge, expensive diamond and accidentally throw it away or wash it down the drain? I will admit, this thought process was a bit hard to get Jake on board with. Guys often feel a lot of pressure to buy big, flashy rings for their girls because that's the "Norm". So, I took Jake ring shopping. After seeing how incredibly expensive simple, tiny rings were (hint, they were about 1/3 or more of his annual income)- he became more willing to try other options. Jake's initial budget of what he wanted to spend for my engagement ring was $500-$1,000. We ended up buying my ring at Kohl's on their Christmas Jewelry blowout for $100. It's a cz (I don't care) and sterling silver. I can polish this easily, and honestly it looks real (even professional jewelers will tell you that certain cuts in cz look real, several of ours did). Plus, it's big. Much bigger and sparklier than We could have afforded if the diamonds were real. Once Jake realized I was serious about not caring if my ring was real/expensive or not- he was pretty excited to save all that money. I'm currently looking at a rose gold wedding band that's $300, so the total for both my rings will be $400- less than the low end of what he was willing to pay for just my engagement ring. Plus, everyone who sees my ring says things like "Omg, what does he do for a living?" "How much debt did he go into?!" "I'm afraid to even ask how much that cost!" Wow, you're ring is so bad-A" "I LOVE YOU'RE RING!!" "This is probably the most beautiful ring I've ever seen!"etc. no one knows it's not a diamond, and the sparkle is stunning! (My personal advice- try to buy your size in sterling silver, it's hard to size and may damage your ring. I have tiny size 4 fingers, mine needed to be sized and while my ring still looks great- it is misshapen (only noticeable when I'm not wearing it) lost a small accent stone, and has some scratches on the back of the band)<br />
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<strong>Photos:</strong> So many people (once again, mostly professionals) Will tell you you HAVE to have a professional photographer; here's what I think about that. Not all professionals are created the same. My parents, some of my friends, and even some cousins shelled out big bucks for professional photographers and got back CRAP. My parents ended up with NO wedding pictures at all, despite hiring a "professional". Instead, look for someone who loves photography and has a passion for it. Someone who knows their way around a camera (and has a nice one), and has knowledge of photo shop. I put out an S.O.S on facebook, and my friend referred me to a friend of his that could do my engagement pictures for $30. She ended up not being able to do it- but she was able to refer me to <em>her</em> friend- who did them for free. They turned out lovely. They weren't exactly what I always dreamed- but they were great, professional quality shots that captured our love, and they were free! <br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7iBeZX4v4hwCFZdnO0KaG1Mk7iK6ot3dhvLI7RggUfRK6wEFecwCbkxLBLb2ag0bPCK2wfztcUMae_E8Tua5FocmKVFRgD9NX8s-wShDSUhxSYJPj5dgxEvF6Z66Aw-KUCELE_t3nLivZ/s1600/photo+%252815%2529.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7iBeZX4v4hwCFZdnO0KaG1Mk7iK6ot3dhvLI7RggUfRK6wEFecwCbkxLBLb2ag0bPCK2wfztcUMae_E8Tua5FocmKVFRgD9NX8s-wShDSUhxSYJPj5dgxEvF6Z66Aw-KUCELE_t3nLivZ/s1600/photo+%252815%2529.JPG" height="400" width="400" /></a>This is one of my favorite pictures from our engagments. The guy who did our shots made this collage of his favorite pictures for me and I love how it looks. He took tons of pictures, deleted the obvious bad ones, then let me choose my top 20 favorites, edited them for me and sent them to me. This is all his work- I didn't touch it. As you can see, he is very talented. You don't always get what you pay for guys!<br />
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Ask your facebook friends, put up adds on college campuses, join an FB yardsale page and post a wanted add. You'll be surprised how many people are willing to help you or give you deals. Some are even professionals. I have a proffessional makeup artist who's sister is a photographer and they have offered their joint services for $80. That's more than I want to spend, but it is a great deal.</div>
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<strong>Venue:</strong> There are tons of beautiful reception halls- but they don't come cheap. I decided that for me, it didn't matter where I held my reception, so I opted to hold it in my church's multi-purpose room; which means it was free. You might decide you don't want to use that option (It might not be available, or yours might be too unbearably ugly), and that's fine. Look for a neighbors' backyard, a park, beach, lakeside, campground, etc. that is either free or cheap.<br />
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<strong>Invitations</strong>:I got these as my second purchase, which I regret. I got 100 invites for $40. These aren't cheap invites. They have beautiful translucent covers, ribbon "belts", they are embossed, envelopes, RSVP cards,etc. GORGEOUS. I kept looking until I found invites on a really good clearance sale (Walmart) and then bought them. I honestly thought 100 would be enough because when I first started reading advice on how to have inexpensive weddings, all their advice was to keep it small- 100 guest or less; so I thought I'd be fine. Now I have 100 invitations, period. I made my guest list of FAMILY (This is grandparents, (first) cousins, aunts, and uncles ONLY) And realized I needed 70 invites, just for my side. These are the people who have priority to invited too, so I cant really cut that list down. So now, I'm trying to come up with ways to save invites so that there's enough to go around. Yikes. So, DO buy invites on sale, but also DO make sure you buy more than you think you need, or only buy after you have a decent idea of how many you REALLY need. I was able to find similar enough invites on clearance at Walmart for an even better deal- so it all worked out; but still be careful!!<br />
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<strong>Decor:</strong> Here is my biggest secret. I didn't pay full price for anything I bought. I bought almost everything at Hobby Lobby, and lo and behold their ENTIRE WEDDING STOCK WAS 50% OFF! I bought my bouquet there, my arch, ribbons, boutonnieres, corsages, tablecloths, etc. <br />
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I also price checked EVERYTHING. I decided what I wanted as far as bowls, cups, utensils, napkins, centerpieces etc and then I scoured the Internet and real stores too, to find the very best prices. I kept track of everything in a notebook. I got my fabrics dirt cheap ($11 for an ENTIRE BOLT of tulle- normally $.97-$2.00 a yard) I used coupons, I searched sales, I bought things at dollar stores- whatever it took. I also scoured pinterest for centerpieces I thought were easily diy-able, and fairly inexpensive; then my Matron of Honor and I sat on my bed and glued them together<br />
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<strong>Flowers: </strong>Real flowers are expensive. They wilt and die and fall apart- and if you want to do flowers as your centerpiece you either have to throw them away (big waste) or figure out what to do with a bunch of bouquets. I bought my bouquet at Hobby lobby for half price (it ended up being $12), and it is beautiful. The silk flowers are high quality, and it is much cheaper than I could have made it for- plus it was in my colors, and I can save my time and energy for other things. I did snazz it up a little. I added jeweled pins (diy-ed), ribbons in my colors, and a couple more flowers. I bought all the corsages and boutonnieres for half price as well- paying $1-2 for them. I decided I wanted to do floral centerpieces, and ordered flowers online. They were not what I expected. I won't be using them. Instead I found flowers that were better quality and closer to the color I wanted at my local Dollar Tree.<br />
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<strong>Food:</strong> Keep it simple, keep it tasty, and add some variety. Originally I wanted to do pinwheel sandwiches. To buy them pre-made would have cost $300 dollars. then I though of devilled eggs, mini pot pies etc- but I kept hitting the same problem- lots of money and lots of work. I also wanted to do fresh berries and jello cups that were half jello half pudding. I later changed my mind to 1-2-3 jello cups (jello layered into three different shades of the same color). But I decided between berries, jello, and cake- I had too many sweets. The only thing that stayed from my original plan? The berries. Yup, the most expensive sounding part of my plan is the one that stayed. <br />
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I can buy a four lb bag of berries at Costco for $11.59. My cups I have for the berries hold about 1 ounce each- so I get 64 servings per bag. So I can feed 300 people for about $58. Not bad.<br />
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I have also decided to have cups of ranch dressing (or maybe homemade hummus) with carrot and celery sticks. This is easy, cute, and relatively cheap. It won't be a big stress on me to do. This makes something that is sweet&tart, something savory- and as an added perk, both are healthy (which makes up for the dessert) and non-meat (While at my best friends wedding, I couldn't eat anything but breadsticks because I was vegan), which vegetarian and vegan guests will appreciate, and meat eaters won't mind.<br />
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<strong>Cake:</strong> My mom hired a professional for her cake. She hated it. It wasn't what she was promised. Heart ache, stress, tears, and a bad cake. Plus, no one is really going to remember how amazing your cake looked. I had tons of cake ideas going in- until I saw just how pricey a cake is. I tried to find a friend or family member that makes cake- but didn't have any luck- so instead I altered my plan. I'm buying the half sheet cakes from Costco. If you have never had these cakes, let me tell you about them. They are made with white (or chocolate, if you prefer) cake, and filled with layers of custard. They are then frosted with beautiful white frosting that is etched with lines sectioning off each individual serving- and each piece is topped with a frosting rose. They are several pounds, and one cake serves around 48 people.Plus, I talked to the bakery and they told me that they would be willing to do the roses in my colors! (peach, mint, silver) So for me to serve 300 people (give or take, but I'm estimating big for now) cake, it would only cost me $108, whereas a professional "Wedding cake" that serves 20-24 is close to $300. Jake and I will buy a small cake (or make one) for our cake topper, and for us to cut.<br />
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<strong>Dress:</strong> One of the biggest expenses for a bride is usually her dress.I remember hearing how much my friends, cousins and neighbors spent on their dresses and cringing at the thought at dropping that much cash on one. My biggest issue is that I will be wearing a temple dress for my wedding ceremony, and a sundress (with sleeves) for the luncheon. I will only be wearing my wedding dress for the reception (2-3 hours). Is a dress I'm only wearing for 4-5 hours (pictures included) worth $1,500-$5,00+ to me? Absolutely not. I would much rather spend that money on our honeymoon, or for furniture for the apartment, or on real clothes I'll wear more than once. <br />
So, my process was a little unorthodox- but I actually bought my dress first. Guess how much I spent. Yup, $25. No, I didn't forget a zero that time either. One day I was at my local thrift store (DI), shopping for dresses for a friend's costume and I saw this beautiful dress and I knew. I tried it on and it fit and so I brought her home. Guys, I hadn't even met Jake yet. I wasn't anywhere near marriage; and I bought that dress. It has been hanging in my closet for close to three years now. I don't care. This is a beautiful, brand new David's Bridal Dress. Now, maybe you won't get as lucky as I did, BUT check classifieds- join online adds, cruise thrift shops. You really can get gorgeous dresses CHEAP. And for bonus points, when you are done, sell the dress to someone else and use the money for something from your registry no one bought you.<br />
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The dresses on ksl, or at thrift shops like the DI have been worn- but only once, for one day, max. Because they are worn you can get very beautiful, expensive designer gowns (5,000+) for $100-$300; Which is such an amazing deal. If you shop places like the DI, you'll get your dresses way cheaper (The most expensive I've ever seen was $80, average is $25) and it's not like they're dirty or worn out- and if it is don't buy it.<br />
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<br />TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-86854849317073974932014-04-03T22:17:00.000-07:002014-11-08T16:50:12.598-08:00Long Hair RevisitedSo, I've now been on my hair growth journey for 3 months. In the past two months, my hair has become healthier and has definitely grown. I've tried some new products and want to go over my tricks- what I think is working, what I'm not so in love with- etc.<br />
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So in the beginning, I bought <strong>equates version of head and shoulders, aussie's three minute miracle conditioner, biotin, collogen, b-complex, vitamin e, fish oil gummies, gelatin capsules, multi vitamins, head and shoulders damage repair mask, pantene over night miracle creme, nexxus anti breakage serum, loreal strengthening mask.</strong><br />
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<strong>Back to basics pomegranate moisture conditioner</strong>. Buy this. Buy this now. <strong>F.A.S.T hair growth shampoo</strong> (which got rave reviews on amazon). I haven't noticed much hair growth from this, but I've been using it less than a month, and with all the other stuff I'm doing, it's hard to tell. Bottom line- my hair feels clean, but not stripped (this is a low sudsing shampoo- so less harsh detergents), my hair isn't straw like, crunchy or nasty. <strong>HNS Strong Hair mask:</strong> I stopped using HNS (Head n shoulders) masks for a while, and my hair health declined. As soon as I bought them again, my hair bounced back. I go through it fast- but hey, it's worth it for beautiful hair. <strong>Redken Extreme Anti-snap potion: </strong>I mix this with my <strong>nexxus anti breakage serum </strong>because on it's own it makes my hair hard and crunchy. It had rave reviews on amazon. I got off to a rocky start with it- but I think it's going better now. <br />
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SUPPLEMENTS: Aloe Vera gel, Biotin, Fish oil gummies, 1 collagen tab a day, Hair Skin Nails, turmeric &cumin, Garlic<br />
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I started the aloe, turmeric, and garlic the same day- when I woke up my hair seriously looked and felt longer.<br />
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I tried some special Indian oils in my hair- but honestly I was seeing better results with my coconut oil. So now, I mix vitamin E oil, coconut oil, tea tree oil, Moroccan oil and a little bit of my Indian oils together.<br />
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I'm not sure if my hair is getting longer- since pictures don't seem to make it look that way- but I know for sure that my hair is growing because my roots are getting pretty bad on my dye job<br />
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TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-62125209431278363702014-03-11T08:34:00.000-07:002014-03-11T16:39:06.127-07:00How to Get Clear Skin FastI have incredibly acne prone skin. It's not oily; in fact, it's bone dry- which I find weird. Anyway, lately I've been fighting a losing battle with my skin. If I don't shower daily, and wash my hair every other day- I get horrible breakouts; even if I wash my face. Well, I had some days where I had to skip my shower; and so I ended up with a face full of horrible, angry acne..<br />
Normally I have a pretty reliable regime I use on my acne, but this time it didn't work, so I needed something better and stronger- and that's where my two new super products come in.<br />
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With my old regime, I often got bad acne scars. With these new products, my acne fades away into nothingness, and I have smooth skin again. Even my existing scars are diminished- and better yet; they work overnight. Pimples practically disappear by morning. Excited? Well guess what, for all three of these products it's less nine dollars (that includes tax), they last a long time, and they can be bought at Walmart. Woot!<br />
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1. Cleanse: I used to use different types of face wash. My two favorites were the Biore Pore Unclogging Scrub Deep Cleanser and Clean and Clear Morning Burst Fruit Infusions Smoothing Facial Scrub. However, because my skin is so dry, I really wanted something more moisturizing. This is hard for me, because a lot of the creamier face washes either dull my skin, make me break out, or don't rinse well. While searching I found miracle product number one:<strong> Palmer's Cocoa Butter Formula Soap. </strong>This is only $2.27, and can be found with the face cleansers.This product is a bar; I use it only on my face, and don't get it wet. It has lasted a long time and has not gotten mushy or fallen apart yet. It rinses well, and leaves a texture on my face that's almost a mixture of slick and sticky; but isn't unpleasant. My face feels moisturized, never dry and tight. This goes well under anything. while in the shower I also exfoliate with a body glove.<br />
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2. Treat: This is the important one. If you only want one- this is it. I used to use Noxema triple clean face pads and/or ZapZyt- but it had gotten to the point where neither of these was doing any good, and m skin was just drying out from all the chemicals. <br />
I work at a place where my boss is really big on all natural stuff, and whenever a child has a bad rash, or burn, or itch, or cracked lips- she has a miracle product she uses. After seeing how great it was for rashes, I did some Internet research and decided I wanted to give it a try; and it became miracle product number two: <strong>Tea Tree Oil</strong>.<br />
I bought mine in liquid form. I found it in the same area as the band aids and medical supplies. It was $4.97 for a 1oz bottle; which doesn't sound like much, but you don't need a whole lot per treatment, so it lasts for a while. You can also get it in gels and stuff,though I'm not sure how much they would be or where to get them besides health stores. The liquid has worked great for me; but if you have sensitive, easily irritated skin, try mixing this with a carrier oil (like coconut or olive oil) so it doesn't burn your skin. I use the pure oil, and though it burns a little- it's not unbearable and doesn't inflame my skin. To use, I just put a dab of the oil on a cotton pad, and smooth it over my acne. <br />
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3. Heal: My dad had a pretty bad accident awhile back, where he cut his arm and needed several stitches. When the stitches were being removed his doctor told him that while the scar was still red- my dad should take vitamin E capsules and puncture them, then rub the oil on the site to prevent scaring. While I was picking up my a new supply of daily vitamins in walmarts vitamin aisle, I saw miracle product number three: <strong>Vitamin E Oil Stick </strong>($1.50); I remembered what the doctor had said, so I bought it. After the tea tree oil has dried, I smooth this over acne scars and red spots. I avoid any active acne that still has pus or is inflamed. This has helped my older acne scars too- but it works best on fresh spots- making them disappear within a few days. (For active acne, I spread a little of my favorite acne cream over it after the tea tree oil is dry)<br />
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3. Moisturize: After the other steps, I put a moisturizer on my face. At night, I use coconut oil, and during the day, I use a clearance day cream I found at walmart.<br />
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My dry spots are gone. My skin is no longer flaky or scaly, and my skin is clearer and better looking than it has been in years!TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-63645777876767447402014-03-06T10:28:00.001-08:002014-11-08T17:00:10.148-08:00How to REALLY get long hairI would like to take this time to apologize to every one for my original <a href="http://thespokensiren.blogspot.com/2013/01/hair.html" target="_blank">How I get longer hair post.</a> When I posted that, I was kind of "lazily" growing my hair- so I basically posted the exact same thing every one else was posting "Don't brush your hair when wet, get lots of sleep, eat good foods, don't use heat, blah blah blah." My readers deserve better right? When I made my last post, my hair wasn't incredibly healthy, but it was doing ok- and it was growing decently, but it had taken awhile. I wasn't religiously doing much to actually make it grow...So today I'm doing a new post on How to ACTUALLY get long hair fast.<br />
Several months ago I decided I wanted to dye my hair red. I bleached my hair, waited a day, then dyed it. It was a beautiful cherry coke color; but I decided I wanted it brighter, so after a week I re-bleached it and dyed it red. I mean RED. Think Ariel. I've never over processed my hair before, but this time I went too far. My beautiful, waist length hair <em>broke. </em>It fell out, it snapped, it frayed ; and suddenly one day I was in the shower, and my hair no longer touched my nips- whereas it used to cover them completely. I was devastated. I was doing all the usual stuff (once again, kind of lazily), and my hair just kept getting shorter. Well, I'm getting married in June, and at the time my engagement pictures were coming up, and I was desperate. I wanted to have long pretty hair, both for my wedding, and for the pictures- but I didn't want to take the easy (expensive) route and get extensions. So I decided to health and love and VOODOO the SNOT out of my hair and FORCE it to grow!<br />
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yeah, that's right- only a month apart, but you can definitely tell there's been growth. So here's what I did.<br />
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Step 1: And this is by far the hardest one.....<strong>The Big Chop.</strong> Basically I went into a salon and said, "I need my hair to grow, cut off all the unhealthy stuff." She combed my snarly, dry, horrible mess of hair out and held up about two inches and told me, "This has all got to go." I was devastated. However, it turns out her salon didn't accept my credit card, and neither did any other salon I could find- so instead I ended up at home with my hair scissors, hyper ventilating and crying while my boyfriend held my hand. About an hour and a gallon of tears later, it was done. About 1.5-2.5 inches were gone. The above picture of Feb. 1st is the day after my big chop.<br />
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Step 2: <strong>Take your dang vitamins.</strong> I know this is one of those "typical" things, but this is important. Don't be lazy about this. Go buy vitamins and take them EVERY DAY as recommended. It will help. I personally take a hair, skin, and nails; biotin; Gelatin capsule; Fish oil; garlic; aloe vera gel; collagen; and tumeric for my hair. I used to take Vitamin E, B-complex,and multi-vitamins as well, but when I read through the ingredient lists on my different supplements, I realized I'm getting more than enough through my other supplements. <br />
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Step 3: <strong>Drink LOTS of water. </strong>I know, another "typical" one. But it's important. My hair was really dry and needed moisture. I was slathering on moisturizing stuff, but I had no idea what I was doing.<br />
Moisture from the outside is good, but your hair also needs to be moisturized from the inside. Drink as much water as humanly possible.<br />
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Step 4: <strong>Get the right products.</strong> Back before I fried my hair; I asked a stylist what I could be using to get longer, thicker hair. She recommended a shampoo she said helped her and her clients and it was only $50 a bottle (yikes, right?)! It was a pretty big bottle, so I decided to try it. No. I didn't notice my hair getting thicker or longer, but it did get less manageable. After my big fry; it just made matters worse. my hair was dry, crunchy and tangled. It was hopeless. So..... I threw away all the products I was using and went to my trusty friend Walmart. <br />
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<li>Equate Everyday Clean:I got back to my basics, my reliable shampoo that I KNEW worked. Basically, this is Equate's version of Head and Shoulders. It's three dollars for a giant bottle, and it smells great. This shampoo is designed to heal and help your scalp. Healthy hair comes from a healthy scalp. </li>
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<li>While I was there I saw that Head and shoulders had some 2 minute masks. One was for dry, damaged hair. This mask is to be used at least 3 times a week,after your hair has been washed and conditioned. It is meant to be both massaged into the scalp, and throughout your hair, then left on for two minutes. </li>
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<li><strong> </strong>L'oreal Total Repair Extreme Emergency Recovery Mask:<strong> </strong>I also found this hair mask, and thought wow that sounds exactly like what I need. This mask is meant to be used once a week, between shampooing and conditioning. You work it into the length and ends of your hair and let sit for three minutes.</li>
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Obviously you don't have to get these exact product. What you should look for are: <br />
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<li>A hair mask that suits your hair's needs. I chose one for damaged, brittle hair because that was my main problem. Growth retention is an extremely important part of getting long hair</li>
<li> A creamy, moisturizing conditioner. My hair was sick and dry; and dry, unhealthy hair isn't going to grow. In almost two months, I got basically no growth (I could tell because my dye job had no roots) </li>
<li>A leave in treatment that says it prevents breakage</li>
<li> caffeine sprays (not necessary, but helps promote growth)</li>
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Step 5: <strong>Shower daily</strong> this one is hard for me. I work early, and sometimes I'm tempted to just wake up and go. But an important part of your hair's moisture comes from- get this- water.<br />
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Step 6: While in the shower, wash your hair with <strong>Cold Water.</strong> I know, this sounds awful. Anytime my hair needs to get wet, I turn the temperature way down, and angle my body so the cold water only gets on my hair, not me. Hot water is drying to the hair, and I'm in rescue mode. If your hair is healthy, you might not need this- but it never hurts.<br />
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Step 7: After watching BILLIONS of youtube videos labelled "Get Long hair Fast!" and hearing "Don't wash your hair every day, Don't comb your hair when wet, don't use a straightener or dryer and that's how you do it!" so many times I wanted to cry; I finally stumbled on some Voodoo. <strong>The Inversion Method.</strong> Basically I would take coconut oil, and warm it up using hot water (not the microwave- because this is said to kill the nutrients), and then distribute this evenly over my roots. once my roots were well saturated I would massage my scalp for 3-5 minutes. After I was done with that, I would go lay on my bed upside down with my head over the edge for 5-10 minutes while I read or used the computer. Everyone says not to do this. I say, listen to your body. If you feel dizzy or weird, stop. Don't do it if you're pregnant or have serious health problems. Be smart. I normally do the inversion method right before bed, so after my time is up, I put my over night miracle cream from pantene into the length of my hair, braid it tightly, and then put a processing cap and a night cap over it and go to bed. Do this every day for a week. In my research, I've found it's better if you only do this a week at a time so your body doesn't get too used to it. I've been doing a week on, a week off.<br />
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I allow the oils to sit and absorb into my scalp overnight, however, this means I wash my hair every day. So, on the days I normally WOULDN'T wash my hair, I get a small amount of shampoo, rub it between my palms, quickly massage it into my scalp and rinse it off and I'm done. On the days I normally WOULD wash my hair- I wash my hair normally and use my masks and conditioner.<br />
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Step 8: <strong>Air Dry and Protect! </strong>After I get out of the shower, I gently comb through my snarls with a wide tooth comb. Then I spritz my roots with a cocktail of sprays. One is fall fight from Garnier, another is Everstrong anti breakage, then there's a couple nexxus ones for strength, and for moisture. Then I work my nexxus leave in serum through the ends and add a dollop of argon oil. Once I'm done, I tightly braid my hair and go. This helps protect my hair while it's wet.<br />
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If I'm going somewhere or have people to impress, I do the same thing, except instead of braiding my hair, I smooth a small amount of blow dry lotion through my hair, and then use my dryer on cool and high, with the ion setting on.<br />
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Step 9: <strong>Stop treating your hair like it's Caucasian. </strong>Did I just say that? Yes. Yes I did. I'm a white girl. I'm as white as they get. When I was going through youtube, it wasn't until I stumbled accidentally onto tutorials for African American hair that I realized those fierce ladies know something about hair. All the Voodoo whoodoo nonsense I found on how to ACTUALLY grow your hair- was on African American tutorials. Shop in the ethnic aisle. try crazy things like co washing (haven't tried it yet, but supposedly great for dry hair) and using monistat for a hair treatment. (also haven't tried it yet, but it's on my list)<br />
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I'm not going to lie. My hair is SOO much healthier now. It's smooth and soft and moisturized. I can comb my fingers through it no problem. And, as you can see, it's growing.<br />
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A couple days ago I bought some new stuff that people both on pinterest and on amazon are raving about for hair growth. I will post my reviews soon so that you can know too!<br />
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**Also, if you are looking for the most incredible conditioner you will ever use, ever- I was at my boyfriend's mom's house over the weekend, and in my bathroom she had Back to Basics Pomegranate Moisture conditioner. I have never felt a conditioner this thick or creamy before. I bought mine for $6 on ebay.TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-27352941819171716172014-02-02T17:50:00.002-08:002014-02-02T17:50:32.668-08:00UpdateWow, It's been so long since I posted anything! I assure you, I didn't fall in a hole or die or anything. I have so many things to talk about, but I'm going to break them up into several different posts, just so they're easier to catalog and therefore <strong>find.</strong><br />
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So first off, let's talk about me. Last I posted I had a new job, which I still have and love. Working with infants is incredible guys- I mean it. Yes, it is very demanding and challenging and sometimes my patience is just fryed- but this is the most rewarding job I've ever had. It has been incredible to bond with all of my little ones (I've had nine over the course of my job.) and to watch them grow and learn. When I started, I had four kiddos. The oldest had learned to walk, but couldn't talk yet. The rest were just crawling. My oldest is now well over two and has graduated, and the rest are running, climbing, talking and making decisions all on their own. Amazing guys; just amazing. I love them so much.<br />
I'm also still working my other job (Costco Demonstrator) on the weekends. It's good to have the extra paycheck for sure- because even though I love the daycare, I only make minimum.<br />
For awhile I went Vegan, and it was so incredible. I felt so healthy, and lean. I lost a ton of bloat and fat. I wasn't sick all the time. I eventually gave up because being vegan is expensive. Though, I discovered that eating out is a lot cheaper if you buy vegan things. For example, if you go to Village Inn with a friend, add a side of spinach to their meal, and ask for the dressing of your choice (I also ask for crackers, and crumble them on top of the spinach). That gives you a simple, nutritious and yummy salad for...get this $0.35! um yeah awesome. <br />
Also, When I go to Pei Wei (right across the street from the daycare, so I can get my exercise too) I order two sides of tofu cooked in water ( I can't have oil) ($2.00 each), a side of brown rice ($.50), a side of steamed snow peas, bean sprouts, broccoli and carrots ($1.00-1.50) and terriyaki sauce ($.50). I ask them to mix it all in the same bowl, and I have a meal that will feed me twice for about six dollars. That's about the price of a cheeseburger, and WAY better for me. And Pei Wei's tofu is the bomb! Best tofu I have ever had! I love Pei Wei. The staff is incredible, and they have never told me no on any special order (plus, ordering things as sides like that makes it cheaper than anything on the real menu)<br />
Also, since I last wrote, the missionary "dear jane-ed" me, and was sent home, and the Dan and I separated for good. I met an amazing guy at my favorite dance club, and we hit it right off- and now the reason for my long absence.....<br />
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<br />TheSpokenSirenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11772096559503592107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366366165300193370.post-26394326074494414622013-08-03T10:48:00.000-07:002014-03-11T17:06:40.137-07:00Wardrobe on a budgetSo the other day, I had some one tell me that they loved my wardrobe/style, and that my clothes were always so cute. I've had several people tell me they wished they had the money to spend on clothes like I did; and once had a guy try to sell me a $200 nail buffer on the precis that "You obviously care how you look, you spend tons of money on your clothes." at that point I smiled and as I gestured to my outfit, I said, "This whole thing probably cost me fifteen bucks max, including jewelry and shoes." So, I've decided to write a post on getting a killer wardrobe on a tiny budget. For anyone who doesn't know me, I competed in the fashion portion of DECA, took a few college courses on fashion merchandising, and some in fashion strategies. I am really big into fashion design, and anyone who knows me well or has worked with me knows I like to tinker, design and create- so, because of my background, I am not only picky with my clothes, but I already know what colors/fabrics/styles look good on me and which ones are not so flattering. In order to maximize your "wearable wardrobe" you may want to spend some time researching what different textures/colors/patterns/fabrics achieve in the fashion world and why, and then decided what you want from your clothes. Do you want them to make you look thinner, taller, shorter, wider, make your bust appear larger, your butt smaller, make you seem relaxed or formal, etc. (I may post tips on this later). Sometimes I have a vision for the things I buy, and have plans to deconstruct and reconstruct them into something new, other times, I plan to wear it as is.. So with that little disclaimer, here we go! My top shopping places:<br />
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Walmart: Yes, yes I know! For a lot of people this sounds totally redneck and white trash, BUT, you can find some super cute clothes at Walmart. I usually won't pay ten bucks for a t-shirt, and anyone who has shopped at Walmart knows their prices can be just as high as name brand stores, so I wait. If I see something at Walmart I like, I keep an eye on it, and wait until it goes on clearance. Then I wait till the price is right. <br />
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Gordman's: This store recently opened up near me and I love love love it!! First off, all their merchandise is already cheaper than other comparable stores (they show you how much you are saving on the price tag), and then to maximize my savings, I shop at the clearance racks. They have tons of cute clothes, often up to half off! And then!! (yes, it does get better than 50% off!) They frequently have deals where you take anywhere from 30-50% off the clearance prices! My mom got a pair of jeans for $4 there once, and the last time I went I spent about $86. At full price, I would have spent closer to $247<br />
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Rue 21: I LOVE this store. Now, Rue 21, like most comparable stores, can be rather expensive, so the trick is to spot the deals. for example, their fragrances are a good investment. I prefer to stick with the clearance racks, because there is always such a good selection. Every time I go in, new stuff has been added to the clearance rack. I buy a lot of shoes from the clearance racks because they are SO cheap and so cool. Often, I can get shoes anywhere from $2-$5 and clothes from $3-$5<br />
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Plato's Closet: I like this place, but I don't shop here as much because the prices/savings can be a little unpredictable. One pair of jeans will be $3, and another will be $80- but there are some things I definitely look for here; For example dresses, jewelry and belts. I've also gotten some pretty good deals on tops, paying only $1-$3 dollars for them. Keep an eye out for their clearance events too! They charge you ten dollars for a bag, and you stuff your bag as full as you can with clearance items! big savings! Also, these clothes are used. They say they check everything over, but sometimes things slip buy. I've gotten a few things that I realized later were damaged/torn- so buy with caution.<br />
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The D.I.: On that same note, one of my favorite places to shop is the DI. here is my disclaimer: Every DI is different. The area I live in is a wealthy one, and so a lot of nice things get donated to the D.I. but if you live in a poorer area, your D.I. might not be as nice. I know a lot of people think it's gross to wear someones old clothes, but I just wash mine when I get home, and it doesn't bother me, because I save so much. There are usually lots of name brand stuff at my DI- from Areopostal, American Eagle, Wet Seal, Polo, Rue 21 and more. Below is a diagram of my most recent purchase from DI<br />
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